I am my child

Confession: I have kind of a pet peeve on Facebook (okay, this is just one of them). When people set pictures of their children as their profile picture.

Maybe it's one of those things that parents annoyingly say to single people, that "I wouldn't understand until I have children of my own." And I do get that having children changes your whole life around, and your whole life becomes about your child, and the whole world revolves around them. As nauseating as that is, I do get it. But even if the world revolves around the kids, you do not cease to exist! Those kids do not become you! I look at your profile and see some kid? That's NOT YOU! Your child might be the most important thing in your life, but don't forget that you are still a person--a living, breathing person with wishes, desires, feelings, and needs that are important.

Yeah, every once in a while I'll put up a picture of an object or symbol, like if Michigan is playing in March Madness, or the Tigers are in the playoffs. But that's temporary--90% of the time my picture is of me. Because it's my profile. I am a person, I exist, and I'm damn important.

Just had to get that out of my system.

Trying to stay positive,
Skeptic

There should be a dating handbook

So.... is it wrong to have a little crush on the HR guy?

I'm sure if there's any policy that exists about inter-office fraternization, I'd certainly be barking up the wrong tree by picking out the HR guy. But he is cute, he is nice, he is actually single (wow, my standards are low). Oh, and he is British. I don't actually know him very well, so I'm feeling like a bad person kind of desperately looking for anyone to crush on, and the fact that he is single and someone I know makes this one somewhat convenient. But he is also cute and nice..... justified? Maybe I should actually read the company handbook one more time?

Oy. I really need to go on some dates. I'm fresh out of ideas. Seriously--how do other people do this?

Trying to stay positive,
Skeptic

Ghosts of relationships past

WTF.
 
Out of nowhere, I had two dreams about Y in the last three days. I really have no idea what prompted that. But the first time it happened, I woke up really upset--I really just don't want to be reminded of things that happened in the past. A depressed panic is not a good way to start the day.

Do the ghosts of past relationships EVER stop haunting you?

Trying to stay positive,
Skeptic

It's been a while

This pretty much sums up all my material since I've been MIA. I date these guys and all is well until I find out that they don't want a relationship. I must be cursed.

I also have an excellent track record of being a secret. Why do guys want to hide me? Why use me? Why flirt with me while dating someone? Does that mean I was the one they really wanted? Why am I a backup?

Que the music: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M1kdpQdi_pE

I don't know what it is about me that men don't want to commit. Am I not relationship material? Don't they want this entire bundle of joy, not just sex? Or maybe the question should be not "what's wrong with me?" but "what's wrong with them?" Because I sure as hell think I'm a f-ing good catch. 

Dang, whomever I end up with is going to be one lucky S.O.B. He's gonna deserve it all.

Keepin' it real,
Realist