So I met this guy over the weekend. It was super last minute type of thing!We have been talking. It was time for the meet. I had no Saturday night plans, so I said F-it.. let's meet. He came up with the idea to meet for coffee. I was impressed it wasn't a bar. He said I would never pick that as a first initial meeting spot. We talked for two hours. Over these two hours we talked a lot about: family, school, work, life, religion, dogs, trips, money, money, money, money, money... The money part was just him! At first I thought ~wow~ ok~ not in a good way. I thought maybe he is just proud of what he does, or came into new found money. Everything had a price tag. So very annoying. "My tenant pays for $2,500 for the mortgage and my rent is $500. I should have looked at this place in Hoboken today. I want to rent my other apartment out. I wound up looking at this place today. It was 450,000. I was like WOW! Not at the price tags of these things that he can afford, just "wow" at the fact at naming the price of everything.
Realist thought he was just trying to impress me. At first I thought that is what it was too. Saturday ended. We "hugged" goodbye and said we would see each other soon. I really thought we would at the time. Seemed genuine... I seemed genuine... I was genuine at the time. We have similar interests including working out, running, and skiing/snowboarding. Although, this obviously isn't enough to keep a relationship together. It is a good start to one. It is at least good enough for a second date! I didn't completely dismiss the guy at this point.
We talked Sunday. He wanted to do a dinner that day. On Saturday night he brought it up. I never got in touch about it. That seemed toooo much tooo soon. He also wanted to come to yoga at my gym. He was willing to make time for me, even though he claims to be super busy. All positives. He also taught me some things I didn't know about Mormons.. The church takes care of them for awhile if they are down on their luck. Different random facts like that. Interesting enough to hold my attention. Although all this info can be found on Google!
So Saturday goes by and we end in a hug.. I'll see you blah blah blah
Sunday, still talking. On Monday, we were talking and I wound up telling him that I'm not looking for a quick bang. He was like no way! He said he didn't want that either.. Blah Blah Blah... Haven't heard from him since.
The end. How do I feel about this? Completely fine. He annoyed me anyways. I think everyone should be bluntly honest about what they want up front. Both parties need to know, so no one's feelings get hurt. Everyone needs to be on the same page.
He definitely was on a different page then me. Maybe a different chapter. The cash factor was a way to "pay" me for the bangs I believe.Why else flash around your cash...
Oh well I shall remain headache free! Feels good!
<3 Disbeliever disbelieving 24/7
Sounds like he wasn't necessarily looking for a quick bang, but he wanted a "Fast Forward" girlfriend. If he wanted a bang, he'd suggest a bar, not coffee for the first date :)
ReplyDeleteThe talk of cash and his desire to do dinner, yoga, etc was probably to impress you. The fact that he mentioned he is looking at homes was to show you that he's into commitment.
Either way, it sounds like he came off too strong!
He is trying to impress you by always talking about money. Turn off! He may also be insecure, so money "fills" that void. You should have given him a second date. I'd be curious to see if he still talks about money.
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