Go to where the guys are. Sounds simple,right? That’s easier said than done.
Allow me to simplify this, ladies. If youwant a gym rat, meet a guy at a gym. Here is an example of what i did.
Step one: Go where your "type" is. I went to the gym. This gym hastons of potentials! I would join this gym just for that. Good workout for myeyes. ;)
Step two: Observe. I had some favorites. Duringthis step, I noticed that every guy wore headphones! Men, how the heck can youmack it to a girl with headphones?! You are closing yourself off! So what ifthey have crappy music. A girl’s voice is music to your ears! Hopefully herlaugh is, too.
Step three: Pick one. Pick one guy whomyou determine as the most "open."
Step four: Plan the scenario, withoutlooking like a stalker. I was on a weight machine, which is in front of a matwhere this guy was foam rolling on his back. He was wincing! I noticed his bright, white teeth immediately! The guy wasin pain, but all I cared about was his nice teeth. (I have a teeth fetish. It’sthe first thing I notice!) I wanted him to keep wincing. No pain, no gain.
I was going to use the foam roller afterhe was done. He went on another machine, so I planted myself right by his keysand workout notebook. He had to come back to get it. Perfect. :)
Step four: Say something, do something. Anything.I had to freakin’ waves my arms around to get this guy’s attention. He did nothear me say “can I ask you a question?” because he was plugged in withheadphones! Case in point.
After looking like a spaz, he unpluggedhimself.
“I saw you on the foam roller. You lookedlike in so much pain,” I said.
“Yeah, that hurts my lower back,” he said.
“Isn’t it bad for your back?”
“I don’t know. I just do it, but it hurtsa lot.”
“I’m asking because my physical therapisttold me to use the foam roller, but I didn’t feel anything. It hurts on mylower back, too. But I don’t know if that’s my spine or a muscle.”
“I just start at my neck and go slow.”
By the way, I am totally blushing at this point.
“When I tried it, I didn’t feel anything.Unless I wasn’t doing it right. I have a back sprain.”
“I’m going to get a MRI tomorrow for myshoulder. I think I pulled something when lifting. So I’m trying to cut back onit.”
“Oh, wow. What ortho do you go to?”
“New York (something). It’s in the city. Iwork there.”
“Oh that’s convenient. I go to (majorhospital). I am in physical therapy now, so hopefully it works. I have a bunchof things wrong with me, so I have been cutting back on running and liftinginstead. (I explained my condition to him and he understood. He paidattention!)
“I saw you using the foam roller on yourcalf.”
“Yeah like twice and then I stopped. It hurtsbecause it’s so tight.”
That’s what she said.
“I don’t run. I wish I can say I did, butI don’t.”
“That’s OK! It’s not for everyone. I don’treally like weights either. I find it kind of boring. But you have your music. Ihave my music when I run, or else I would be bored, too.”
Finally, the introduction. I totallyforgot to even introduce myself. I didn’t even care to know his name.
“I’m (Jose) by the way,” he said, shakingmy hand..firmly with direct eye contact!
I returned the handshake with my name as Iwas sitting on the mat and he was standing.
“Wow, that’s a pretty firm handshake yougot there!” I laughed. The handshake felt like it lasted 10 minutes! It was areally good handshake, too. Firm and direct eye contact. This guy means it!
I went to try foam rolling on my back andhe was watching. He told me to go slower.
That’s what she said.
He went to do another thing, so I continuedrolling. Back to thinking of what to do next. Wait for him? Leave? The gym wasclosing in 10 minutes. I decided to leave before him and not wait. That wouldbe awkward to walk out together.
I went to get my bag and he was standingby an ab machine playing with his iPod. Ugh!
“I’ve had enough of the foam roller. Thanksfor showing me how to use it!”
“You’re welcome. Nice meeting you. See yousoon!”
“Thanks. See you!”
I willbe seeing him.
Ladies, the moral of the story is yougotta go after what you want. There is always a challenge-- in this case,stupid headphones-- and he is the gym. Guys donot part with the gym. It was a good test though to see if he would bewilling to take a break from his sets to help me.
I normally don’t approach guys, but maybethat’s what women have to do now. There is no way a guy at the gym wouldapproach any girl if he’s plugged into his headphones. He is too busy listeningto Pitbull or something. I’m sorry, but my laugh is music to a guy’s ears!
It does take guts to approach a guy. It’snot something most women do, but I am sure guys don’t mind! They find thatattractive. Be brave! I hope it “works out.” ;)
Keepin’ it real,
Realist
I really don't know how you do it--you make it sound so easy! I'm just so terrified--I figure a guy will talk to me first if he's really interested (although look how far that's gotten me *headsmack*). Sheesh, what is my problem if simple conversation is so difficult?
ReplyDeleteP.S. I LOL'ed at the "that's what she said" jokes. :)
Haha I try to be creative. :) It IS a big risk. It takes guts. But there is nothing to lose. It is a challenge to get a guy's attention without whoring yourself around him. I looked like a mess-- no makeup, a T-shirt, the usual gym wear. I don't think my looks intimidated him haha. But at least he saw me at my worst! :)
ReplyDeleteRemember, guys are afraid of rejection. Wimps. But I am sure no guy would mind a girl approaching him first. He said he saw me foam rolling on my calf before I spoke to him--so I did cross his mind. Maybe he didn't want to bother me, but then again I was closed off because you can't have a convo while someone is on the foam roller. There is no way a guy would approach me at the gym. I had to do it. They are so into their workouts and are plugged in. They're in the zone and you need to get them out of it. I liked that challenge. :)
I have never done this before, by the way. Like you, I always let the guy go in for it. But after considering the situation and surroundings, it made sense for me to say something. It's easier if you find something in common to talk about, or ask him a question. This was good practice for me. Practice makes perfect. :)
Love the "that's what she said" moments.
ReplyDeleteThe rare few times I've done the approaching, it's landed me nowhere. Even though I live in Shy Guy Central (San Francisco), I figured any guy wants to talk to me, will - like Skeptic said. Of course, I make it easier by smiling, making eye contact, and being nice. In the end, I feel like a guy is "ill-gained" if I had to pick him up first.
I'm a gym rat. My gym is full of cute guys... who are all interested in other guys.