Every once in a while I make myself do something uncomfortable for the sake of getting out of the house, meeting people, and practicing being social and playing the single courtship game. Tonight's experiment was a singles mixer a'la "Meetup."
It wasn't too bad--there were actually a lot of people there, and if I really too my time to look around the room, there were some cute guys there, too.
Problem was, those weren't the guys I was talking to. I was talking to all the schmos who seemed to line up after each other to talk to me, none of whom I had any attraction to at all.
The problem is, I don't know how to gracefully say no. I can talk to anyone, and I can be quite friendly and polite, so maybe these guys thought that meant chemistry, but the reality was I was trying to figure out how I could get out of the conversation. I just can't ever think of any way to do it gracefully, and I feel terrible about stopping abruptly and saying "well it was nice to meet you," and walking away. I even feel bad saying no if they ask for my number.
So, while I had a decent time, I didn't end up with any prospects I'd really like to see again. So what's the secret? How do you gracefully say you're not interested?
Trying to stay positive,
Skeptic
Ergh, it's hard to say no, or to walk away, because you're a genuinely nice person, Skeptic and you don't want to hurt anyone's feelings. I'm not good at being blunt, but I think "it was nice to meet you, have a good night!" does the trick. Just say it in a nice way, and then walk away swiftly.
ReplyDeleteGood for you for getting out of your comfort zone and going to a singles mixer! It is not easy going to those, especially solo.
I have a problem with that too! Sabrina said it best. Nice to meet you. Then get out of there ASAP
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