Second date with the model yesterday went well, but I came away with mixed feelings. Second dates often leave me that way. The nerves/excitement of the first date are eased a bit, and the second date opens you up to really think about whether you want to see someone more regularly or not. With the model, the chemistry is great, and he's very witty so our conversation is very easy, casual, and relaxed. And yet.... something feels off. I don't mind keeping things casual when first dating someone, since putting extra pressure on it I think ruins it, and being overly-romantic too soon makes me feel a little bit barfy and uncomfortable. But there has been zero romance or seriousness so far. Despite the witty and sparkling conversation, I don't feel a serious connection with him yet. And even though he must be interested in me at some level (he hangs in there for 5- or 6-hour long dates, he's showed a little bit of a cuddly side, etc.), he doesn't ask me much about myself to get to know me, aside from complimenting my watch or bracelet he doesn't say anything about what he likes about me, and there are no subtle romantic gestures at all. I don't want to be too sappy or romantic, but I think I need just a little something. Like..... does he even honestly like me?
So..... I just don't know.
In other news, work guy did ask me out, although now that I'm on vacation, it'll be another week or two before that can happen. So I did a little internet stalking on him to see what I could learn. He seems like a genuine guy with similar values and interests. But.... he also seems very religious. I'm not a total heathen or anything, but people who are uber-religious scare me a little. I'm going to be open-minded about this, because I won't know anything about his perspective on all of that until I get to know him. But that can be a touchy issue, so I'm not sure how that kind of match would work.
I know that beggars can't be choosers, and this is WAY more action in my dating life than I've seen in a LONG time. But I can't help being anxious for something to work. Anything--for longer than a month or two. I'd settle for just someone I can get a little excited about. And right now my prospects aren't quite like that--at least not yet. I want more.
Trying to stay positive,
Skeptic
You are not a beggar, so be a chooser! For the model, give it one more date. It's hard when you like affection (verbal and physical), and he seems withholding (even if it's shyness, it's still annoying).
ReplyDeleteAs for work guy, maybe he is personally religious but does not seek it in a mate?
Model boy just sounds off for you! Let us readers know how it goes
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