Two weeks to go of my drawing class, and I can already feel myself talking myself out of pursuing my drawing teacher. I can hear the voice in my head saying, "nah, he's just being nice to you, it isn't really flirting--you'd just embarrass yourself if you asked him out." Ugh, why do I talk myself out of it? I know why--it's because I know that I don't handle rejection well, so I'm terrified of rejection and pretty much avoid it as much as I can. It's really not a way to live.
On a side note, something I was thinking about today: what would our dating lives be like if it weren't for social conventions? That is to say, if we didn't pay any attention to dating "games," like rules about communicating with one another, or the way dating is "supposed to be" or whatever. I hold myself back on a lot of things in dating--I don't say exactly what I'm thinking because it's not ladylike, or demure or mysterious enough, or because I have too much pride, or I'm afraid of what the response would be. There's something to be said for manners, but there are times when I wish guys would just tell me what they think, and I could just say what I think without repercussion. Just some food for thought, I guess.
Trying to stay positive,
Skeptic
Go for it!!! He is totally obtainable!!!
ReplyDeleteHeh, you say this with such confidence like you know him.
DeleteGods yes I wish people would quit thinking "Oh, if I do this now I'll be coming on too strong and scare her off." Or I hate myself for thinking "Gods, he's coming on too strong." Why can't I just roll with it? Why can't we just be like "Yo, I like you. You like me. Let's DO this." *sigh*
ReplyDeleteGood luck with the teacher! Totally worth a shot :-D
Exactly! I think way too much about how things come across on both ends. It's stopped me way too many times from telling guys how I feel. I wonder how my life would have been different if I had just put everything out there (and the guys didn't think I was a freak for it).
DeleteI am sure guys think the same way about this. I am guilty of this too by following the "rules" to avoid taboo. But it really doesn't work...
DeleteDo it!!!
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