Wow, maybe I dodged a bullet?
So the Cuban Teacher texted me today after 4pm to see if I wanted to meet up tonight. His exact text was, "Howdy - Wanna see me tonight?" Romantic, eh? And very similar to the terrible trend that Sabrina frequently faces of men trying to make last-minute dates. Very frustrating.
Anyway, I was annoyed by the last-minute request and was exhausted after a long day of work, but I was nice and asked him what he had in mind. He said he wanted to pick me up and go for a drink to watch a Michigan game or something fun. I replied that I did not want to be picked up (we had talked about this on our first date--for me, it's a safety thing until I know someone much better), but would be happy to meet him anywhere for a drink, as long as we didn't make it an all night thing, as I had a long day. Then he asks me if I want a boyfriend or a tour guide, because he gets the feeling from me that I like him but don't LIKE him. Not one to play games at all, I told him he was reading too into it--I just didn't want to be picked up because of a safety thing and I barely knew him (we only met once), and I honestly was tired from a long day of work--I wasn't just saying that because I wasn't interested in him. I don't play games like that. He then said he was expecting something different from a Midwest girl, and wished me luck in my search.
Um, wha?
I actually think it's a very good trait of myself that I don't play games. I will tell a guy exactly what I think. But I'm also not a pushover--I'm not willing to risk my own safety in blind naivite. I personally don't think I did anything wrong here--I was completely honest and feel I did the right thing. I'm a little shocked that this guy didn't appreciate that, though. Wow.
Well, that one didn't last long. Next!
Trying to stay positive,
Skeptic
You definitely didn't do anything wrong here. I hate when these guys try to manipulate a situation into us doing something wrong when we're really just being smart or exercising a preference. Consider that a dating bullet dodged!
ReplyDeleteI take back my previous comment about Cuban Teacher being promising. He sounds manipulative.
ReplyDeleteI hate when men get huffy because you're trying to look out for yourself in a common-sense, practical way... whether it's not letting him pick you up or not having sex before your comfortable. The Midwestern Girl comment was passive aggressive.
He probably had plans to get in your pants that night. It is easier if he "picks you up!" What an ass though
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