The Journalist continues to be as puzzling as ever.
Yesterday we went out for the third time (outside of work). This time he came out to my town, I walked him around a little to show him around, and we settled into an Irish pub to watch a basketball game. We ordered tea (I got hot tea because I was feeling a little under the weather, but he followed suit. I actually suspect that he doesn't drink.) and appetizers and talked for the duration of the game and then some.
Then we talked about what to do next. We had been chatting about movies, so we looked into a nearby movie theater. They weren't showing anything that we were interested in or hadn't already seen. We ended up deciding to go to my apartment to play board games.
I was a little reluctant to go back to my apartment, because that's generally a new level of intimacy, and I still wasn't sure what was going on with this guy--were we dating, or just friends? Still, I was comfortable with him and trusted that I'd be able to call the shots if anything physical went on. I wasn't even sure it would come to that, and if we were just friends, I have friends over all the time. So I was fine with it.
We played Trivial Pursuit. That's really all. He beat me big time, but I'm not sure my mental devices were all there--I was feeling sick and my brain was fuzzy. I couldn't even remember the name of my apartment building earlier on in the evening. By the time he left around 1am, my cold/sinus thing that had been growing all day was really rearing, and I'm sure I looked a fright with a red nose and blood-shot eyes. Maybe I should have called it a night earlier, but I was having a good time. Anyway, he never made the slightest move. Not at all. Now that I think of it, I probably can't blame him.
A friend of mine the other day told me to stop freaking out about what to "call" whatever this relationship is, and just enjoy it and let it do its natural thing. Maybe it's a type "A" thing to want to know how to define it. My friend is right--regardless of what it is, it's nice and I enjoy spending time with him. But I can't help thinking about where it will go because I'm not completely sure how to act around him. It's difficult for me to see him in a romantic light, so I'm really not sure if I have romantic feelings for him.
Trying to stay positive,
Skeptic
Journalist is seeing someone, isn't he? Did he mention her?
ReplyDeleteI think your friend is right in not calling it anything - he's obviously shown interest in you before and you are holding up your end of the bargain by being receptive. But it seems like the move is up to him, especially if he is seeing someone.
I hope you feel better! It's no fun being sick, especially when you have to take yourself to the pharmacy to get meds and Gatorade :(
I don't think he's seeing anyone now (although I'm not sure). He was strikingly open with telling me about dates he's been on, but the last I heard (just before Christmas) he had just broken up with some girl (which he also oddly shared with me).
DeleteI find it weird when guys talk about other girls to you, whether or not they are seeing someone. It makes me wonder if I'm just a friend, or if they are trying to gauge my reaction. Either way, it offends me!
DeleteThat might just be the most confusing part of it. If he was just not making a move, it could just be that he likes to take things slow, which is perfectly fine. But I never tell my dates about my other dates--it just seems completely inappropriate (until you are in a committed relationship and the time comes to talk about that), so when he talks about other girls, it is a complete turnoff. Maybe he is trying to gauge my reaction, but it really moves him firmly into friend territory.
Delete