626

Are there any faithful guys out there?

I got a secret message from a bartender at a place that I go to a lot. He added me on Facebook after my post on his bar’s wall that said the bartenders should get a raise for giving me ice for my injured leg. I was running near the bar (not to get sangria) and I hurt my foot so I went to get ice. It was nice of him to give me ice.

The bartender commented on my post and said he hopes he gets a raise and that he’ll see me soon. I said I will be there on Friday. Well, I did not go there on Friday. I went to another place with a patio to drink sangria. Friday came and I did not go. He commented again, saying he did not see me on Friday. I said that I went to another place with a patio to drink sangria, but it was terrible. I told him I will never abandon that bar and that I will be back soon.

He said I had better not abandon him when he is there. I said that I will give him a good tip when I see him. (I did not mean anything sexual.)

Then he adds me as a friend. I noticed that we have the same birthday! I posted that on his wall. I said, “Party at the (bar)!” He said, “Or AC.” Wow!

I stalked his Facebook and saw no sign of a girlfriend. He had a few profile pics with him and some girl from two years ago. I figured they broke up, especially since he did not have a relationship status on his profile.

So far so good. He just graduated with his masters. We share the same birthday. Looks single. So far so good! He is three years younger than me. But whatever. I’ve dated three years younger up to five years older…and they’re still immature and don’t know what they want. 

Then he secret messaged me! Oh boy. Ladies ,beware the secret message! It's shady!

Him:  Rangers yes.. but sore loser no... (on his wall post I said ew that he is a Rangers fan.)

Me: haha ok then...I best be going to sleep. I have to get up in 3 hrs. Ugh -.-

Him: me toooo then work I better see you!!!

Me: haha don’t worry you will! I can never abandon the (bar).

Him: you can’t abandon me when I’m working. That would suck. How old are you?

Me: I am three years older than you.

Him: Not too bad. Lol

Me: Bad for what?!

Him: Three years is nothing lol! AC on 626 (bar) for weekend! I’m down.

Wow he is making plans already!?

Me: I have work on 626. June 22 I am going to NYC.

Him: where is my invite!?

Me: the hotel is already booked.

Him: I get comps, sweetie.

Me: OK well my room is booked!

Him: Nice nice.. well the bar for the weekend! We MUST take a shot together. If we don’t I’ll be upset! Sweet dreams, hun. See you soon.

Aww …

Me: OK bye 626! lol

Him: Patron is my friend! You can have whatever you’d like. It’s on me! 626 for life! Good night. Sleep well.

Me: shot of sangria! lol good night.

Him: Haha

Well that was random. I didn’t know what to make of it.  It was 3 a.m. he probably just got out of work. He probably thinks it’s fate that we have the same birthday. I would love to date a guy with the same birthday. I wonder how that would work! I do not follow astrology, but I wonder what the “stars” would say to this.

What if I dated this guy? I couldn’t bring any other guy to the bar because he works there. If we break up, I can’t go there. I know I’m jumping ahead but I was just thinking. I am not going to reach out unless he does.

Days went by and nothing. Then I see that he was tagged at the beach with a girl whose profile picture includes him! Hmph! Her profile also has “in a relationship”, but no name attached to it.

Shady business!

I should have commented on that. Why doesn’t he have “in a relationship” or pictures of her? I do not think they are just dating. Her profile  is public so I was able to read it, and they commented on a few things. They are def dating.

I should go to that bar. I wonder how he would act. I will even ask him if he has a girlfriend (she is 20 so that gives him the green light to flirt since she can’t legally drink!)

What a disgrace to 626…..

Keepin’ it real,

   Realist

Green-eyed monster

Actually, I do have green eyes.  But that's not what I'm talking about today.

Remember Spiderman, the guy from my previous job who is kind of dorky and resembles Tobey Maguire in "Spiderman" just a little bit, and I had a teensy bit of a crush on?  I found out this morning that he has a girlfriend, who is actually stunningly gorgeous and adorably hot.  True, I was only lukewarm interested in him and never made any effort to test those waters beyond just saying hello and offering up a little chit-chat here and there.  But something about seeing him off the market makes me sad.

Maybe there's a little bit of me that wonders how such a dorky guy could get such a beautiful girl  Maybe there's a little bit of me that thinks maybe I let a good one get away.  Maybe there's a little bit of me that is totally jealous and wonders why I still can't find that for myself (well, not a beautiful girl, but you know what I mean).  They are all totally childish feelings, and I'm not proud of any of them, but I suspect I'm not the only one who gets these feelings and maybe if I say them out loud we can try to understand them.

I also wonder how sincere people are when they say "I'm happy for you."  Think about it.  When someone else finds love, really dig down deep.  Does that make you really, truly happy?  Does someone else's happiness really affect you at all?  I'd venture to guess that more often than not, it's just something people say.

Trying to stay positive,

Skeptic

What’s your 5K time?

Some girls want guys with blue eyes. I want a runner.

It’s not the only criteria, but it is up there. The guy has to be faster than me. I don’t want to be the one waiting at the finish line. A guy who is slower than me is a turnoff.

I know this narrows down my selection. If a good guy comes along, but he is not a runner or is slower than me, would I be attracted to him? Well, he can take up running. He can do some speedwork. I guess I’d want him to have the commonality prior to meeting.

For instance, there is a guy who finished his third marathon in Delaware in 4:19, which is slower than my predicted marathon time. I was turned off. But he wants to do a marathon in all 50 states. Hmmm…… that’s a good bucket list idea that I’d want to add.

Should I give him a shot or run away?

Keepin’ it real,

    Realist

The Dating Game

With my new job in the city, I hear about a lot more networking events and activities than I ever did before, and I am determined to take advantage of opportunities to meet people as much as I can.  This past week I went to a networking event full of all sorts of folks.  Like in any large gathering where I don't know anyone, I felt the social fright drain all blood from my body.  Still, I'm proud to say that I made myself talk to people, and luckily pushing yourself into other conversations was pretty much expected at this event.  I met a few interesting people, and once I realized I was only talking to "safe" people (e.g. girls, unattractive dudes, and older people), I told myself I have to make an effort to talk to someone I found attractive.

So I did!  This guy was most likely quite a bit younger than me, but he was tall, dark, handsome, and had little dimples that I found irresistible.  I wished I had made more effort on my hair (which was messily tied back in a ponytail) or had cleaned myself up a little more after work, but oh well.  After a while, he wandered off to another conversation.  I was sad that he didn't give me his card, but proud of myself for taking the step.

Yesterday I was having dinner with friends, one of whom casually mentioned her friend who had been on the dating scene in the city for over a decade, and even though she was attractive and smart, girls like that are a dime a dozen in the city, and guys tend to know that, so dating is even harder there than anywhere else.

Well, damn.  Now, the only thought I can think of is that I'm not good enough for all the young, attractive, career city guys.  Why do things like that matter?  Why does dating have to be competitive?  Why should things like that make me feel inferior?  I've never been cut out for the "game" part of dating.  I don't like to compete.  Can I do this?  Errgggghhh.

Trying to stay positive,

Skeptic

Tales from Transit #1

Yesterday on the subway a couple was standing next to me.  How did I know they were a couple?  How could I NOT know.  They were standing disgustingly close--practically humping right in front of me, and the guy could not go more than 10 seconds without kissing the girl.  BARF.  Get a room!  Why do people do that?  I really don't mind little G-rated displays of affection--holding hands, a single kiss here or there.  But I don't want to listen to you making out, and I don't want to try to find enough ways to avert my eyes from you devouring each other.  I know we have to stand close to each other on the subway during rush hour, but give. me. a. break.

This girl breathed a sigh of relief when they got off the train 2 stops before me.

Trying to stay positive,

Skeptic