You want to know why dating is so messed up in NY? It's the guys.
That's what Patti Stanger says she hit, "The Millionaire Matchmaker," to the city season.
"Coming to NY is coming home for me," says Stanger who grew up in NJ and Manhattan. "So, I'm disappointed to see the terible dating scene."
Men in NY are selfish these days. They want to hold onto their money and they're in no rush to find a mate.
All you need to find is one guy. So what's a girl to do? Stanger offers these tips to find someone special in NY. I couldn't have said it better myself!
1. Don't Judge
On her show Patti had one woman who wouldn't date a man who lived in a different borough. Stop judging. At least until you go on the first date.
2. Break Bread
"One of the best parts of the dating scene in NY is that men understand that dinner is an absolute must!" says Stanger. "Lunch is an audition, drinks are an interview. Women love to be fed, and dinner is a necessity. Make sure that a guy you're seeing understands that."
3. Say it, Don't Type It (The Mom circled this one in the article)
"Stop responding to guys who only use text messages." She says, "Are you kidding me? You can't fall in love with a guy unless you hear their voice. If you can lock onto a man's voice, you can connect to it. You certainly don't get that from a text! Besides, you're not looking for a pen pal."
4. Get Active
"First figure out what types of guys you like, and what they enjoy doing," Stanger says. "Together with your girlfriends rotate buying tickets to a Yankees, Knicks, or Rangers games. Better yet go watch a game at a bar! Go ice skating at Bryant park. Remember you will not find a man by sitting around. That will never work!"
(I disagree with this one guys are very into the game and never would go ice skating unless they are on a date already!)
5. If At First You Don't Succeed...
"Don't give up too easily!" says Stanger. Try a venue or event more than once, and if it doesn't work, then move on to the next thing. But always give it a chance. And remember-- stay positive. A woman's smile is her calling card.
I really liked this article. I believe this is from the January 6, 2011 edition of the Daily News. That Patti needs to hook a sister up!
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I def. agree with #3! When a guy starts texting me, I won't respond until he calls or I just don't bother because texting is so impersonal, shady, lazy, and it takes me forever to text! I still have the old school phone in which I have to press a button three times to get the letter that I want. That right there is enough reason for me to not respond via text messaging! It's tooooo much work!
ReplyDelete#4 is a good tip as well. It's common sense. Go where the guy you want to attract hangs out. But I can see girls going to a Yankee game, not enjoying it or having no clue what is going on, and then they find a guy but the guy thinks she is dumb because she knows nothing about baseball. Plus most guys are there to watch a game with their friends, not to meet a ditz. That's going too out of one's way to get a guy, at such a high expense both money- and time-wise. It also looks desperate. Home Depot is the better, more feasible option for those who want a handyman. I get what Stanger is saying, but she just used a poor example.
I rate this article ** out of five.