I decided to go against this grain at 26 years old. No more "benefit of the doubts." I repeat! Ladies DO NOT give any guy the benefit of the doubt! It is a waste of time! You only get one chance to make a first impression.
If you blow it, it is blown forever!
Put work into first date ideas!
I feel like it is gotten down to the point where I have to ask the guy "What are we doing? Where are we going? Are you sure this will actually happen? Will you show? How late are you running? Will I really be eating food? At what place will this happen? Will you come up with some type of excuse?"
I even got the excuse two years ago of, "my mother is in the hospital."
I asked about his mother and he forgot his lie! That is another story though...
So back to dates. I used to do all the planning. I have to cut back on all the planning. Especially for the first date! I even picked up guys before. B~I~G mistake! I always wind up feeling like the man. Last time I checked I did not have a penis! It is getting bad. I'll try on my next date to have the guy plan the first one.
I will give this one more shot. If it sucks again I'll go back to the planning.
I had a great time dating myself at the Olive Garden. Maybe I should go back there? Do they still have the never ending pasta bowl? Another Disbeliever rule is: never let the guy pick you up.
No way not for a first date! You take your car. I'll take mine. I need my get away vehicle!
It has really gotten that bad in the dating word. I'm completely comfortable that you go your way at the end of the date and I will go mine.
<3 Disbeliever disbelieving 24/7
No second chances at all, ever? Wow, harsh, disbeliever...
ReplyDeleteI agree with you on the driving separately, though. What if the creep is a rapist? Sad that the dating world has come to that.
That's right-- no second chances! Trust your gut! Def take sep cars. I would never plan a first date. If it comes to the point where the girl is making the plans, it shows that the guy is not interested....or he doesn't know how to date!
ReplyDeleteIf a guy can't plan a measly date, he's not going to man up for more important things in the future!
ReplyDeleteSadly, after over a year in San Francisco, my standards have gotten low and I'm ok with drinks downtown near our offices. California men are not like East Coast or Chicago dudes - dinner is NEVER a first date and if it is, they usually expect you to contribute $.