I know it's been almost two years since we've dated and I still have to see Y often and I've tried to be nice to him so things aren't awkward but he still remains very cold toward me, and I swore that I gave up trying to be nice to him. But it is just not in my nature. It is deeply written on my DNA to be nice to people, even if they haven't been nice to me.
So I gave in. I wished Y a happy birthday. I couldn't help it. But that is ALL--I swear.
Trying to stay positive,
Skeptic
We're so alike, Skeptic. I did that very recently with someone. It's ok! It doesn't mean you're trying to get him back or throwing yourself at him. It's a polite gesture.
ReplyDeleteSometimes I think maybe he interprets these nice gestures as me trying to get him back, though, and maybe that's why he's so cold to me. That's why I tell myself I should stop it, because that's not my intention. Oh, the inner turmoil.
ReplyDeleteHe prob thinks you are trying to get him back. It's a sticky situation but he doesn't deserve to be wished a happy b-day. Don't be too nice to people who don't deserve it. While that is in your "DNA" to be nice, I think it should be on a case-by-case basis. Do you feel better that he wished him a happy b-day? What did you expect to happen?
ReplyDeleteI didn't expect anything to happen. I wished him a happy birthday, he said thank you, the end.
ReplyDeleteOoo I thought he didn't respond to that.
DeleteYeah, he said thank you, but not a big deal--just being polite.
DeleteI hope a card was not sent!!!!
ReplyDeleteNo card!
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