A question from one of my annoyed male friends:
Why do I keep falling into the friends zone?
From Sick~n~Tired I have enough friends!
Dear Reader,
I know you personally and I feel you are mature beyond your years.
When we met you were 18. I was 25. I did not feel like we had much of an age difference. Girls at your age are sadly looking for the fix-me-uppers! The guys with the problems that we need to help and fix. I personally fell into this trap many of times especially from the ages of (16-22ish) At 22, I got tired of trying to fix people! I want someone with their shit together!
My advice to you is expand your horizons! Talk to girls who do not know the girl you are after. The more females you talk to the more chances you have. Also, try the slight touch, or try to touch more than usual. Arm wrestle, stupid stuff like that. Also, it is very important that you win the arm wrestle contest! This way it will get her thinking about the more than friends zone.
The girl you are liking can also be liking you too but maybe has a zillion different reasons in her head not to date you: she maybe not even realize she is liking you as more than a friend until you are hooking up with her so called "friend", she is afraid to ruin your friendship, (let's face it once you two get into a dating relationship everything changes) maybe her and her friend are into you and they don't want to ruin their friendship. You really never know! Females over analyze everything and yap to their friends about all these details.
So for this semester my best advice to you would be to expand your social female circle. Eventually one of these girls will see you as a more than a friend!
<3 The Disbeliever
I was thinking about a few friends recently who I know are in similar situations. In the "friend zone," or liking a girl from a far, or having a crush forever and doing nothing about it. The thing is, if you really want something, you have to go after it! It won't fall into your lap! Your chances of getting job go up exponentially once you file an application. Your chances with a girl go up exponentially once you ask her out! Make a move! Flirt a little and test the waters! I spent far too many years being scared of dating and waiting for something come to me that it pains me to see others doing the same thing. Get out there and live life!
ReplyDeleteOr stop trying to befriend girls first and go straight to trying to date them! I have a hard time moving between friend and romantic zone. Generally once a guy is a friend, I can't think of him as anything else. Of course, I'm currently (kinda sorta) breaking my own rule....
ReplyDeleteJust make a move and ask her out on a date! Ask if she feels the same way. If you get rejected, man up to it and keep hunting. Wimps are not attractive!
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