I’ve heard that nice guys are everywhere. I meet nice guys all the time, but very rarely are they single, and even more rarely are they also close to my age. I know you are out there somewhere—where are you? My single lady compatriots bounce from one guy to the next, but I have no idea where they are finding you. And I'm not exactly hiding away in my apartment all the time, so I'd love some help with how to find you.
Rather than turn this into a big complain-fest about not being able to find a nice guy, I will assume that all the nice guys are reading this blog (ha!) at this moment, so I will tell you where I am so that you can find ME. I’m a little old-fashioned and a lot shy, so it works better for a guy to pursue me than the other way around. I’ll give you a little help on that. Sound good?
1. I’m online. Yes, on the dating sites (I've tried just about all of them at one point or another). Not very many of you are, as most of the guys who contact me are 54 and, based on the pictures they post, don’t shower very often. Get online! Lots of nice girls are waiting for you there, and the pool of men is disappointing, to be honest, so we would love to hear from you!
2. I’m at work. Yes, I know that you all don’t work with me. But if you were a nice guy at my workplace and you wanted to get to know me, you could set up a “networking lunch” to talk about our careers, and see where things go. How easy, right? I’ll bet there are nice girls where you work, so go for it! If not, there are some job openings here…
3. I grocery shop, run errands, ride the bus, and generally go the places you go. So pay attention! Don’t just turn on auto-pilot, I may be trying to smile at you! Heads up and look alive!
4. I go to museums, restaurants, movies, and all kinds of places I enjoy. Sometimes with friends, but more often by myself. This is a great opportunity for a guy to say hello, yet they never do! Wake up boys, nice girls are everywhere! Say hello! Compliment my smile, say something about the art/food/movie, ask me if I’ve ever been to [insert another museum/restaurant/movie], and boom, you have a date! Don’t be a creep, though—if you say hello and I avoid eye contact and run away, please don’t follow me to the ladies room.
5. I sometimes go to bars, but not as often. I find it really difficult to meet a “nice” guy at a bar. You might find me there, but I’ll most likely be the one scanning the room with a disappointed look on my face, and will probably leave by 11pm. Nice guys—if this is your only strategy, you might want to consider expanding into items 1-4.
Nice guys—help a nice girl out. Tell me, where can I find YOU?
Trying to stay positive,
Skeptic
Trying to stay positive,
Skeptic
Regarding #3, I make a point of touching up my lipstick right before I leave work and get on the bus, or when I head to the store. :)
ReplyDeleteGirl you are put of a running crew! It needs to be used to your advantage as well! I'm having Barb send the flyer to me. I'm going to use it to approach hot men at races and elsewhere. I was so mad I didnt have the flyers on Saturday!!! Now, I can feel like I'm working 24/7 with promoting haha
ReplyDeleteYou're right, races would be a great place to scope out the scene! I think that's where my bashfulness works against me, though--I'm pretty sure I put out an unapproachable vibe or something. Must fix this. Eh, really I have no idea what my problem is.
ReplyDeleteWhile it may sound like a good idea and easy to meet people at races, it's actually very hard. I'd stay away from people on our team. They are strange! We must recruit to youngins. No one over 40! Let's revamp the club!
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