There seems to be something I'm plagued with that I just can't shake--guys that I'm friends with, in whom I have absolutely no romantic interest at all, seem to always have crushes on me. Thankfully, only a couple of them have actually acted on it, which forced me to very awkwardly let them down and strain our friendship. But I am constantly worried about the other ones, hoping that they won't ever try anything that would ruin our friendship and put me in a very awkward position. And hoping that they'll get over it and move on.
I've been thinking about this another way recently, though. It sometimes seems unfair that the ones I have no interest in become infatuated with me, and I can never seem to work anything out with the ones that I like. But think about it--with these friends, I basically label them in my mind as "safe" and let my guard down, acting like myself with more confidence and warm spirit than I would with the guys I like, with whom I'm likely more often nervous, shy, and awkward. Clearly the confidence is more attractive, and maybe I'd have a better chance if I could learn how to maintain sanity and composure around those who make my knees weak.
Trying to stay positive,
Skeptic
Single girls are always told that men love confidence, and they love if you're just slightly unattainable so they can chase you. HOWEVER, men don't want a girl who is TOO confident, lest they think she doesn't need a man. Such a tough balance! But if you're grappling with it, confidence is better than vulnerability (when it comes to men, anyway)
ReplyDeleteHa, I don't think I'm in danger of being too confident. :)
ReplyDeleteYou already are too confident to the meek, pathetic men out there.... fortunately, you don't want them anyway :)
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