Here is the book I am raving about!
Sorry it took so long to post, but I was holidaying.
What did I learn from this book?
Well first of all, I DO NOT want to get married this year! I picked up three books to skim while I was at Barnes and Noble. I started with this book and read 130 pages! I did not make it to the others!
It is divided into three sections: 1st section working on yourself, 2nd section finding the guy, and 3rd section maintaining the relationship.
I pulled a lot of information from this book. I needed some reinforcement on dating information! Can you be too independent? I'm an independent woman to the max! Beyonce should have had me as the main star in her video. I'm so independent, so why would anyone be able to see themselves with me? Or how can they? I do not give them the chance. On the first dates I'm giving them a run down of of my life not making anytime for someone else. I even went out with a guy this summer. He wound up asking me where a guy would fit into my life? I had no answer to his question. I never even mentioned wanting someone to this "potential." Of course I will still have my independence, but I will try not to advertize it on a super sized billboard in Times Square now.
What else? Should I try online dating? I feel like it is too desperate!
Although according to this book, it should be a paid site. I never wanted to go on a paid site, but it makes sense to me. The serious types are on paid sites. The quick bangs are on the free sites. I'll toy with the idea of going on a paid site because it does feel kind of desperate.
I will try speed dating! Anyone want to come? You go on mini dates each last for about five minutes. If they suck, then onto the next one in five minutes. I LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE this idea! I will try it and report back on my findings. Anyone want to come?
It also said extroverts should seek out introverts. NO! WAY! I cannot seek out an introvert! In fact I'm highly annoyed by introverts. No way can I date an introvert. I'd love to meet the author here. This is where I disagree! Communication styles are tooooo different. You need the same type of communication style for a relationship to work. I just can't grasp introverts! Extroverts all the way!
I highly recommend this book! You will determinately be able to learn something from it! So go give it a read though! Just hide the title.
Happy New Year!
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Yes, you come across as very INDEPENDENT (I had to edit your mistake) and that scares guys away. The only way guys know though is because you will tell them how independent you are. It sounds like a controlling/power preference in dating.
ReplyDeleteFor the new year, I would try online dating and speed dating, but I don't think I would take it seriously. So I already have a wall up. Online dating really scares me, not because of of just safety reasons, but I would feel obligated to keep talking to them. I also feel like it's too forced. I would rather meet the guy at the right place at the right time!
I can see how introverts and extroverts can get along. You both take from each other. It's a good balance.
As a serial online dater, I sometimes prefer it to meeting guys "cold" at bars, events, etc - which I go to plenty of. With (paid) dating websites, there's a slightly greater chance he's looking for a relationship as opposed to a quick bang under the influence of alcohol. It's also easy to filter some of your basic dealbreakers right off the bat.
ReplyDeleteYou'd be surprised how many outgoing people actually test as introverts... it's a bit of a misnomer. But I agree that I am very outgoing and that shyness/quiescence is a turnoff.