Some guys just don’t know how to hit the ball back and forth. They have no game. I don’t know if it’s insecurity or shyness, but man up! Our readers agree. In our last poll, you said that guys should make the first move/ask the girl out. (Only three people voted though, so it’s skewed.) I think it is a man’s job to make the first move. Obviously if there is flirting between the two, then there is attraction. How many hints does it take for them to ask a girl out on a date?
On the other hand, if there is attraction between the two, should the girl go after what she wants? Maybe guys find that attractive and ballsy for a girl to make the move. This male posted on a forum about who should make the first move. “It’s nice to be the one not taking the first move all the time. Part of the fun of dating is that nervous little tingle you feel in your stomach when you find a beautiful woman who smiles at you.” Another one: “Back in my single days, I was a shy little monkey, so if a woman ever made a move on me first, that would be one way to overcome my own lack of confidence to do so first. And it shows her assertiveness too. I'm fine with that.”
On the contrary, consider this excerpt from He's Just Not That Into You.
Dear Greg,
This is dumb. I know you're not supposed to call guys, but I call guys all the time because I don't care! I don't want to play games. I do whatever I want! I've called guys tons of times. You're such a square, Greg. Why do you think we can't call guys and ask them out?
Nikki
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Dear Nikki,
Because we don't like it. Okay, some guys might like it, but they're just lazy. And who wants to go out with Lazy Guy? It's that simple. I didn't make the rules and I might not even agree with them. Please don't be mad at me, Nikki. I'm not advocating that women go back to the Stone Age. I just think you might want to be realistic in how capable you are of changing the primordial impulses that drive all of human nature.
Or maybe you're the chosen one.
Men, for the most part, like to pursue women. We like not knowing if we can catch you. We feel rewarded when we do. Especially when the chase is a long one. We know there was a sexual revolution. (We loved it.) We know women are capable of running governments, heading multinational corporations, and raising loving children -- sometimes all at the same time. That, however, doesn't make men different.
This is dumb. I know you're not supposed to call guys, but I call guys all the time because I don't care! I don't want to play games. I do whatever I want! I've called guys tons of times. You're such a square, Greg. Why do you think we can't call guys and ask them out?
Nikki
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Dear Nikki,
Because we don't like it. Okay, some guys might like it, but they're just lazy. And who wants to go out with Lazy Guy? It's that simple. I didn't make the rules and I might not even agree with them. Please don't be mad at me, Nikki. I'm not advocating that women go back to the Stone Age. I just think you might want to be realistic in how capable you are of changing the primordial impulses that drive all of human nature.
Or maybe you're the chosen one.
Men, for the most part, like to pursue women. We like not knowing if we can catch you. We feel rewarded when we do. Especially when the chase is a long one. We know there was a sexual revolution. (We loved it.) We know women are capable of running governments, heading multinational corporations, and raising loving children -- sometimes all at the same time. That, however, doesn't make men different.
Guys like the chase, but they will run away if girls were to ask them out. If he is afraid to ask, then what does that say about him? Insecure and unconfident. That’s not attractive. I like a guy that is not a wimp and is willing to take risks. If he likes a girl, then he should pursue her. Be a go getta!
I know rejection is tough. I am sure the pressure is on. However, if no one took risks, then we wouldn’t be where we are today…or have a blog for that matter. There is no way of knowing unless someone speaks up.
My mouth is shut. :x
Keepin’ it real,
Realist
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