Dating misconceptions are dated

We just want to clear up some misconceptions when it comes to dating. We hope this puts an end to these misconceptions!

1. Older girls want to get married. We both have dated younger men. We love them, but we are sick of hearing that we are just looking for marriage! Sure we are within the “marrying age” (although an "official" age range for marriage is nonexistent). Statistics show that women are getting married much later in life (30s). They want to establish a career first. Good idea!

2. We want Prince Charming. Tall, dark, and handsome is not on every girl’s list of qualities that they want in a guy. Girls prefer guys whose qualities do not have a face, but a heart. Oftentimes, it is these qualities— sense of humor, kindness, smarts, ambition— that makes guys attractive. 

  

3. First date: dinner and a movie. Zzzzzzzzz… Let's go bowling, to a park, or to a hockey game and we will both get to know each other better. There is no pressure and there will not be any awkward silences. Going on active dates also avoids the scripted…

4. Boring interview. What do you do? What do you do for fun? Are you in school? What is your major? Where do you live? How many kids do you want? This sounds like a girlfriend application. We’d quit before being hired.

5. Girls love bad boys. If anything, it is a phase that happens usually in high school. Girls do not want to get involved with guys who show signs of oppositional defiant disorder (ie., criminal background, abuse and use substances, engages in mischief behavior, expulsion from school, violates rules, no respect for authority). Girls like sweethearts, not rebels.

6. The three-day rule. If a guy likes a girl, he should not have to wait three days to talk to her or to ask her out for a second date. It does not scream “desperate.” It just means that the guy has the girl on the brain. Waiting is torture for both sides. Life is too short. The time is now!

7. Diamonds are a girl’s BFFE. No, our pets are. But go ahead and give us something meaningful that can’t be bought in stores and you just might surpass Java and Laa Laa! Girls like gifts that are unique and thoughtful, whether it is a note, poem, homemade cookies, a card, or something that reminded you of the first date. Then you can impress them about how you made it or thought of the idea. Don’t get upset if they laugh about your disfigured flower. Within laughter is a smile. (Dang that’s a good quote. Copyright!)

8.  We are Ms. Independent. While we are accomplished women, that does not mean we do not need you. Guys are like whipped cream, if you know what I mean. ;) They make our life sweet.

9. Chivalry is dead. Someone please call 9-1-1 to save Chivalry! Guys may think that opening the car door is old fashioned, but girls love it! Girls will not laugh at you for your kind gestures. We are actually thinking that your mom brought you up really well….and we want to personally thank them. Keep chivalry from being extinct by opening doors, carrying heavy bags, calling or texting us if we got home safe, treating us at dates, or pulling out chairs from under the table. Don’t let the Ms. Independent façade get to you!

10. We want to control or (Gasp!) change you! The reason why we like you is that we got hooked on something about you. There is no point in changing that. We like you the way you are.

If anything needs to change, it is these misconceptions!

Keepin’ it real,

    Realist