True stories about dating that will make you shake your head in disbelief!

Once upon a time there was a Disbeliever, Realist, and Skeptic. They were all on the quest of finding love. We are a must-read for those in the dating realm who are confused, frustrated, in love, or happily single! How will their stories end? Stay tuned for their stories.

Tuesday, July 31, 2012

He gave me the Green Light

I need to carry “business cards” with me on the run with my phone number on them. There have been too many missed opportunities to disseminate them to honkers.
Like this one, for example. I had the right of way to cross the street, so I continued running and waved to the car as courteous gesture. The guy rolled his window down and said, “Ladies first.” Tuned into Enrique Iglesias’s music, I tuned out this guy’s voice! Then it finally registered. About 10 seconds later—as the car is halfway up the hill and as I am halfway down the road—I turn around and shout, “thank you!”
Fail.
I was so shocked of what he said. Chivalry is not dead! There is hope!
I did not get a good look at him because it was dark. But love is blind. I want to marry him regardless of appearance. I should put a “missed connection” on Craigslist.
Keepin’ it real,
    Realist

The Monthly Text

What makes a guy think it’s a good idea to text a girl he has not seen or talked to in a month or two?
I have not been to this certain bar in a month. I got a text from the bartender asking where I have been. Miss me, much?
This is the shady guy whom I have mentioned before, who unfriended me off Facebook because I didn’t want to bang him. He claims he doesn’t have a girlfriend, but I believe my eyes when I see a profile picture of him and his girl! She was following him like a lost puppy the last time I was at that bar. He ignored her!

He asked when I am going to stop by at the bar. I said I miss it.
“The bar or me?” said Mr. Shady.
“Is your name Sangria?” I said.
“It can be. Lol whatever you want to call me.”
“Shady. That’s what I’ll call you!”
“Oh yeah?! Explain?!
“You’re not single!"
“I have lots of female friends…who said I have a girlfriend?”

RED FLAG ALERT! When a guy says “I have lots of female friends”, sprint!
Notice that he did not deny that he has a girlfriend.

“Lots of female friends..all of which you bang probably.”
“You think I’m a whore so I’m not going to ask you out for a drink or anything. You blew that one.”
That made me laugh. He wanted to ask me out for a drink? Where? At his bar? Hahahaha! It looks like I blew that one and lost my shot. Dang. Big loss!
          Until next month….
Keepin’ it real,
    Realist

Friday, July 27, 2012

Single & Ready to Mingle

I've been warned to stay away from musicians and those in the music field by just about everyone in my life; however, everyone has their type! Mine just so happens to be hipster musicians covered in tattoos & piercings. Don't ask me why, I just know what I like :) But I'll be the first to admit that as an Opportunist I seize all opportunities. I do not discriminate. If you've looked at my dating history it would make sense. 1st boyfriend= 28 year old Puerto Rican in the middle of a divorce (happened way before I was in the picture) with 2 kids; 2nd boyfriend= sociopathic dj (who I fucking hate but still love at the same time...long story...we still bang); 3rd boyfriend= I don't even know what to say about this one. The point I'm trying to get at is that I'm supposed to be going on a date tomorrow with an individual I met on OKC & he happens to be a musician...in an indie band. & I'm also chatting up this hipster dude from Brooklyn & having a riot texting him. I've never done the whole dating/single thing seeing as I've always jumped into relationships (not by my choice...suprisingly the males), but this is refreshing. HOLLA


- the Opportunist

Thursday, July 26, 2012

If you are NOT serious! R~A~N~T~I~N~G!

Please leave me alone!

I know if you are "dating" someone or not! I know all!
So under these circumstances come on! Seriously! Really!
It doesn't matter how hot you are!

Also the Costa Rican bothered me again today!
Come down! Come get a drink! UGH! I can not STAND it! So annoying!

What else is bothering me? Marriage!
What do you guys think about it? Anyone honest anymore?!?!
Can you really say "Yes" to F~O~R~E~V~E~R...
You better hope you grow and change together!
Otherwise, it will never work!

I'm really in a I HATE MEN stage! I really do!
I think they are all the ultimate players!

I'm watching this show now on TV.
100 guys are coming in and three girls have to choose six guys out of these 100.
They can overlap their six guys. Um, Hello! I'm right here!!
How do I apply to be on this show? They will now be going on dates with these guys all around the US or was it the world? Why do I like these dating shows so much... Ahhh reality T.V. I love you!

<3 Disbeliever Disbelieving 24/7

The perfect proposal!

I ran a three-mile race last night! After the race the first 10 people to come up with an 11 in their number would get a prize since it was the 11th year of the race. I received a shiny brown bag from a jewelry store. I reached my hand in the bag.. I'm thinking wtf is this a ring?!?!? I reach my hand in the bag and pull out a small green box with an engagement looking ring inside!

Is this a sign? I was laughing on the ground for practically 10 minutes. How great of a proposal idea is that though? When I find my guy he will have to top my fake ring and proposal

<3 Disbeliever Disbelieving 24/7

Wednesday, July 25, 2012

I am an eternal believer. Believer in love..

I am an eternal believer. Believer in love..
I feel like every experience adds to you, and prepares you for the upcoming relationship you will have.  Things may not end up the way you like. But I believe there is a reason for everything. Good and bad. When bad happens I say to myself, "this too shall pass." And unfortunately, it is true for good days and times, too.

So, what do I do. Live in the present. Enjoy the PRESENT..PRESENT time, PRESENT moment, PRESENT man, PRESENT fun, whatever it might be.. And I hope it is very sexy. :)

I believe every day is my day. And it should be that way. Nowadays, my fave singer Shania Twain's "Today is your day" song became my motto, my religion, you name it..

Here is a link to that song :
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OMciyWyugKY&list=FLJZs663xq5BSXZLeuVK0-bA&feature=mh_lolz

Her story is amazing. Kind of like mine. Her husband cheats on her with her best friend. And she loses her voice, her hope for a moment, but then finds love again. And that love is her best friend's husband :)
She starts singing . And I hope she will perform again.

My new guy and I have lots in common. Sometimes we joke that our ex spouses should hang out, and date :)
LOL..

Love to all. Live in the PRESENT. I guess my name should be: The one who lives in the Present.

Thursday, July 19, 2012

Please don't shoot me with your arrow Cupid. I just want to have fun

So, in a bid to have material to write for this blog I've decided to sign up for OkCupid. Now, I'm completely content with being single & figuring things out, but I decided why the fuck not put myself out there via web!? I am the Opportunist after all! & let's face it, the only dudes I seem to meet in person are flaky musicians, asshole dj's (especially my ex), creepy old men, & hairy mother fuckers. So far so good. I just had a half Brazilian/Half Peruvian personal trainer IM me. I know the Realist will be jealous :P MEOWWW ginger kitty!


-the Opportunist

Black Beauty


I don’t know what it is. There’s something about them that is attractive. I don’t like chocolate candy, but I have a thing for chocolate men.

I blame working at the Nets games. I love interacting with the fans. They are so funny, dress well, and have a great personality. I also point the finger at my current city. They are everywhere. My neighbors are the nicest people in the world!

I think this fascination is because I think mixed couples are hot. And they make cute kids! It may also be due to the fact that it is so rare. I find it hot.  It is an unattainable idea, so that makes me want it even more.

I do not like the ghetto ones. I like the “fly” guys that look like you tore them out of a magazine.

Just because I am attracted to them, doesn’t mean I would date one though. My parents would not allow that. I know it’s a shame because I am old enough and they can’t pick my mate. But it would tear the family apart. It’s not worth it. But would I bang one? ;)

Why I like them black:
1.      Personality. This is why I don’t dig white guys! They have no personality.
2.      Dress well.  Impeccable!
3.      Smell good.
4.      Nice bodies.
5.      Overall sexy.
6.      They treat women with respect.
7.      They love their family.
8.      I am sure they are great in bed. I mean, come on…
9. They got game! White guys don't! They are too timid.
10. They intrigue me…I wonder what it’s like….


Keepin’ it real,
Realist

Wednesday, July 18, 2012

Going to hell in a bucket babe, but at least I'm enjoying the ride

So, I'm going to keep this short & sweet...like myself...well, not really.  No dating adventures as of yet, but I do feel compelled to share this with y'all. You see I have an aunt who married a baptist and moved to the Midwest. Every once in a while she sends me a book or subscription to a random evangelical magazine saying along with a card how she prays for me. It's obvious the reason why, A. I'm agnostic B. I'm a liberal yank C. My extracurricular activities & D. She reads my FB (lets just say I go for the shock value). Anywho, here's an e-mail I received a few hours ago. I get them frequently... 


To all my nieces and nephews . . . ----- can you show this to -------- too.

I just wanted to let you all know that I pray for each and every one of you every day. My prayer is that you will make healthy choices for yourselves so you can a fulfilling lives.

Wish I could see you guys more often (especially ---- and ----). ---> this was my brother & I

Love you Lots,

Aunt -----



- the Opportunist

Tuesday, July 17, 2012

I'm ready for my close-up my dearest bloggers!

Hey gals & gents! Allow me to introduce myself as your new blogist, the Opportunist. I'm a gingerlicious diva hoping to bring a lot of sass, a little class, & shit-ton of smart ass :) As an opportunist, my main goal is to take advantage of all opportunities the dating world has to offer. In doing so I hope to share with you guys aka our dedicated readers & also my fellow singles my experiences...which no doubt will be brutally honest & plagued with my ever-so-present sense of humor. So, with all being said I bid you adieu & thank you humbly.


the Opportunist

Words can be quite powerful, you see

Things are pretty hot right now with SanFranMan.  There has been sexting almost every night for the last week, for several hours, and the creativity and explicitness is enthralling.  Sadly, I have to take a break for a few days because I have so much to do after work for the next week as I prepare to move to a hot new city.  Although I'm sure I will find time here or there for a "quickie."  ;)

Trying to stay positive,
Skeptic

P.S. This guy says he is going to be in the area on vacation in October.  Oh boy, does he have it coming....

Monday, July 16, 2012

Last week it was me! This week it is the Realist!

So last week he wanted to hang out with me on Monday or Tuesday. Now, today he asked Realist first and then me. I would say Realist was number 164 on his possible list of females to hang out with. I was 184. He asked me a half an hour later! Does he really think we are not comparing notes on his actions!?

Costa Rican: Hey how are you?
Me: Excellent! How are you?
Cr: I'm off today!
Are you doing something?
Would you like to go for a drink? 
Me: Going to hot yoga! Enjoy your day off!
Cr: Yes I'm
Hot yoga excellent

End scene at least it was short...

No I will not hang out with you super last minute when my friend just rejected you!

I hope I will not have to write about him tomorrow...

The Texting Player

Now the player is texting me,not the Disbeliever. He wanted to hang out but I wasn’t able to. I wouldn’t want to date a player anyway. I don’t come with dice!


Three days ago:
Him: Hi how are you?
Him: Are you alive? J
No!
Me: Yes and I see you are, too. Haha.
Him: Yes I’m. J (I hate bad grammar! Pet peeve.) I’m going to (city) for lunch and then work,,,
Him: About you still in pajamas? Jajajaja J
Me: No I’m gonna go run soon.
Him: Very nice athletic I like that...that’s why you have a beautiful body.
Me: Thanks! J
Him: J

So happens he says the same thing to the Disbeliever. I bet if I don’t respond, he will move on to her. Player! He will take either of us. I can’t believe this guy. Doesn’t he think the Disbeliever and I compare what he says?!
Keepin’ it real,
Realist

MC got us Fallin' on the Floor Laughing


I had my eye on a guy across the bar. My friends and I plopped ourselves next to his table. They said he was looking at me. Whenever we passed each other, we made direct eye contact and smiled. So far so good! 

He and his friend left the bar first. My friends and I were outside and we decided to walk to our cars. He pulled up next to me in the parking lot. Wow!

“Are any of you girls Spanish?”

No, but I really think I am one! Don’t let the whiteness fool you.

“No,” I said.

He hands me his CD. Heny Puro! (That is not a typo- there is no ‘r’ and it is not "puto"...although it should be!)

He handed me his card and I said, “Is this the number to call you?” Real smooth….

He proceeded to give me his personal number.

First reaction: I am repulsed by his voice. He has the smoker voice.

“What are you girls up to?” 

“Trouble,” I said, grinning. “You?”

“Just chillen…what kind of trouble do you want to get into?”

“No trouble…”

He continues to talk about his MC thing and we all introduce each other. He got a kick out of my name. It’s catchy!

He is from Rhode Island, yet lives in this state and drives a car with a Florida license plate. Hm….

He invited us to his show in Rhode Island and it had to do with Dunkin Donuts. Is he MC-ing there?

After he left, we immediately played his CD in my car. It’s actually pretty good. His voice ruins it though. We watched some of his videos on YouTube. Hilarious!

At least I didn't have to pay $5 for the CD.

Keepin’ it real,
Realist

Unfriend me off Facebook, Unfriend me in Real Life

How do you get rid of man whores? Tell them you are not into hooking up, messing around, whoring around, having friends with benefits..the list goes on. Also, do not take advantage of a booty call. 

The guy I mentioned previously (the one who shares my birthday) unfriended me off Facebook after I told him I am looking for a relationship. He was still into the no-strings-attached crap. Fine. I don’t need those people in my life anyway. YET, he will still text me at 3 a.m. after he is done with work for some reason, not looking for “anything like that.”

Huh?!

By the way, I have compelling evidence that he has a girlfriend, whom he claims is one "regular" hookup. That's for another blog.

         Why does he still talk to me when we are not Facebook friends and he knows that I am looking for a relationship, which he claims he does not want? What's in it for him?

         
         Guys don’t know what they want….

Keepin’ it real,
Realist

It wouldn't "work out"

The gym boy has a three-year old girl and is divorced. Just my luck. He told me his full name in conversation. The stalker that I am (a girl has to do a background check), I did a search on Google of his name and I found his LinkedIn profile. There is a section “recommendations” and upon reading it, he recommended an optometrist for Lasik. This is where I learned that his three-year old daughter got her eyes checked. Even better, he attached a YouTube clip of his Lasik surgery. It was def him. It ends with a picture of the surgeon, himself, and his ex-wife. Everyone was labeled on the picture (it did say "ex-wife"!). I sure attract the winners!

It’s disappointing because he was my type. He was so nice and would always say hi to me first and talk to me after his workout. At least I found out now. Thank you, Internet! 

Are there any single guys out there with no history of divorce, a child, or a wife on the side? A single girl needs someone with a clean slate! I get the leftovers. Good thing my gym membership ended. 

Keepin’ it real,
Realist

Sunday, July 15, 2012

The Three-way Date

The Realist and Disbeliever met a guy last weekend on our way to white water rafting. He talked to us on the train about: Costa Rica, wine, school, his condo, his job, his tattoos, and family. That was all within a 20-minute train ride. We exchanged numbers. 

During the week~ A little texting back and forth. Nothing too extreme. 

The Realist and I hung out with him last week. He said he would arrange a table for us. Only we could do something this outlandish "for the good of the blog." Let me tell you, we felt like we were on some dating TV show. We went to his job at a really nice restaurant on the patio. He is a waiter. He saved us a table. He ordered everything for us, without us picking. It was a surprise. AND- there was sangria waiting for us! (We never told him how much we love sangria. I guess we give off the sangria vibe.) We had: two glasses of sangria, mussels, some veggie dumplings, and calamari. The food was EXCELLENT! But the Realist had to tell him she doesn't eat meat. So he gets us seafood. She still couldn't eat that. She didn't want to be mean, so she politely told him she does not like calamari and he got her some veggie dumplings. Disbeliever had to put some mussels on her plate to make it look like she ate some. 

The Disbeliever always get into these should-be date type situations with the Realist! We had a great time without it actually being a date. So we enjoyed our food and drinks as all the wait staff was super attentive to our table. Different guys kept checking up on our table: We were left wondering: Who is going to pay for our bill? Which one of us does this guy like? Is this not the strangest thing ever? Do people think we are lesbians? So, the Costa Rican gets off of work and joins our table. He ate some of our food and put in half for the check. We each put in 30 for the bill. 

It was strange! Was that a threesome date? Is that what they do in Costa Rica? We should go and visit the natives to find out. Is Costa Rica all that it's hyped up to be? He says the same things to us! He would take whomever. He is not sure if any of us like him. What was that?! A guy takes both of us on a date, but it was like he paid for the Realist and Disbeliever to date together!

Then we went to a bar. We talked about how guys do not know how to treat ladies these days. He pulled out the chair for both of us! We felt like we were on elimi-date or a bachelorette two-on-one. He purchased all of our drinks here and kept them coming. Did he think he was going to have a threesome with us? Do we give off that vibe? Our conversation was a lot based upon: music, food,  him bragging about how rich his family is, cows, (that is how his family is so rich in Costa Rica) surfing, long boarding, schooling, cooking, and him getting a driving license. He has been out here for six months. He purchased a condo, but does not have a license. In between our convo he would say in Costa Rica a zillion times. "Oh, you guys went whitewater rafting. You should try it in Costa Rica In Costa Rica surfing is the best. In Costa Rica I have land. In Costa Rica I have cows. In Costa Rica the bars close at 4am. In Costa Rica I party until dawn. In Costa Rica beer is like water. In Costa Rica.." You get the drift.

He also wanted to do lunch with us the next day again! He purchased all of our drinks at the bar. At 4am the Disbeliever had to drop this guy off at a train station and his "friend" was on the way to pick him up. Good friend! When she dropped him off no one was in sight. Did he sit around waiting for the first AM train or really have a friend on the way to get him at 4 a.m.!?

But he did have great qualities for a youngin'. We loved the fact that he brought up how men do not know how to treat women. W-O-W! We wondered if he was acting/saying all that stuff just to get with one-or-both of us. But there's no way to tell. The Realist was turned off when he asked me where he can get MORE drinks. It was 2 am! This is not Costa Rica! We hated when he was talking about how rich he is and about all the property he owns in Costa Rica. He won't be in the states for long. He loves Costa Rica too much for its drinking lifestyle. Bottom line: he is looking for a wife to take home to Costa Rica...with his cows.

What we really like about him:
1. Seems to be a gentleman
2. Can cook
3. Claims to be neat
4. Nice body
5. He pulled our chairs out! (This is so rare, gentlemen. I don't care if it is 2012. Equal rights~ Whatever~  Pull out a chair out once in awhile for a lady! I think it is such a nice gesture.)
6. Good hobbies- very adventurist and athletic
7. Good conversation- not a pervert
8. Seemed genuine

Our dislikes:
1. Wasn't that funny
2. Strange situation. What is this guy doing? Is he trying to play us right in front of our faces?
3. Here today gone tomorrow
4. Drinks too much
5. Will probably move back to Costa Rica soon

If he only knew we had a dating blog.... If he only knew... Only in Costa Rica!

<3 Disbeliever Disbelieving 24/7
         &
Keepin it real,
Realist 

Friday, July 13, 2012

Poll Results, and Some Introspection

I've been naughty.

Which is completely appropriate in some scenarios, I realize, but in this case it is entirely out of character.  But being naughty feels good sometimes when it's out of character--I think we all have a little devil inside that we need to get out of our systems on occasion.  It comes out in different ways for different people--be it secret indulgences, excessive partying, breaking rules, or in my case, engaging in serious flirtations with someone very very far away, thus creating a scenario wherein I will most likely end up hurt.

I realize the danger in this situation, and obviously the tug-of-war between the pleasure and fun and the emotional risk does not have a clear winner, as yesterday's poll ended up in an even split down the middle.  I have been in similar situations before, and I know how hard I fall when it comes to my emotions--perhaps harder than the average person.  Sometimes it takes me years to get over heartbreak.

In this current deviation, it seems harmless to start.  I do not have any emotional feelings (yet), so it doesn't yet feel like anyone can be hurt.  And let's be honest, it feels good.  It is refreshing to be told nice things and to get excited and to make someone else excited and realize the effect you can have on other people.  Without these things, a person can start to feel dead, so after a long hiatus, it is invigorating to feel alive again.

However, there is the inevitable.  While all is fine now, most likely the longer this continues, feelings will develop.  Science has shown that the same part of the brain manages addiction, lust, and love, so even though the act of love involves a commitment to another person, the feeling of love develops out of lust and a feeling of addiction to another person.  Thus, the more sexytime you involve yourself in, the more likely you are to become addicted and develop feelings.

Thus, I may be at a fork in the road.  I could continue to have fun, since I need a little of that in my life right now, and just see where the road takes me.  Or, I could stop it now before I am at any risk of becoming heartbroken.

Trying to stay positive,
Skeptic

Thursday, July 12, 2012

Poll!

Let's hear it!  You may expand on your answer in the comments.





Trying to stay positive, 
Skeptic

Wednesday, July 11, 2012

Boys Meet phone!


rotary phone

Back in the old days this is all you had. Here it is! If I was not home your ass would have to pick it up and call again. Dating had a greater hunting aspect back in the day. Guys were going to ask for your number and be more likely to call because they faced greater rejection. Plus they were asking in person for your number!

Today guys have online dating, computers, social media, etc. No wonder why we are all single ladies. These guys are over stimulated. They can not process all these females or possible potentials they can meet. So they are single due to overstimulation. Gentlemen, if you have a lady in front of you, let me suggest commiting because let's face it...you do not know how to act in the first place and no one better will come along your way!

Wishing I was born 30 years ago! Dating was much easier!

<3 Disbeliever Disbelieving 24/7

Tuesday, July 10, 2012

And that's all I'll say about that

When it comes to doing business with a guy, I'm not one to chat.  Which is why using the phone for such things has never been my forte.  However, I find that guys who are more creative types tend to find ways of attentively describing things with detail that is most unusual for a dude.  Being a creative person myself, it becomes fun to join in with crafting the story.  And even though I'd still prefer to skip the phone and negotiate in person, this situation can still be one of the most erotic experiences I ever have.

Trying to stay positive,
Skeptic

ETA: In this post, I mean "doing business," as in *ahem* "relating" to a guy.  In person is the only real way to do this, as it is not the time to chat.  But in situations where in-person is not possible, and you have a creative mind and a way with words, you can still have a lot of fun.
 

Monday, July 9, 2012

A young brown-eyed Raoul Bova

I'm going to say that I think it's actually a good thing to have a crush at work.  It helps if it's really meaningless, so as not to distract you from your career (of course).  But it's nice to have something fun to look forward to or to make you smile.

Remember how I mentioned I have a crush on one of our interns?  I think he's quite a bit younger than I am (obviously--he's still in college), although based on his high school graduation date, I'd guess he's about 25.  But I just realized what star he reminds me of.  There was a guy in the movie "Under the Tuscan Sun" who was Diane Lane's much younger Italian boyfriend for a while.  So imagine this guy, but about 25 years old, and with brown eyes.  Yummy.


So I'll just smile and let my heart flutter when I see him at work this Summer, and maybe by the time Summer is over, I'll have someone else to crush on.  Right?  Let's hope I can find someone to be more than a crush, though....

Trying to stay positive, 
Skeptic

Friday, July 6, 2012

Ugh the score is now 1-2 guys

Guy: Whatcha you have in plan for the weekend?

First of all is that even English?
I will not respond!!! Ugh the guys are beating me now with last comments score 2-1 :(

<3 Disbeliever Disbelieving 24/7

Age it is just a number part 2

Refer to the first age blog for more details...
You think he would catch on I have a dating blog and to leave me alone!! No he is NOT that smart...

Guy: Hey how was the 4th? (Notice who made the first comment before your harassment starts! Your man!)
Me: Great who is this? (I don't have this guys number or save it for that matter.)
Guy: This is Romeo. (haha he wishes)
Me: You are in trouble! I have your girlfriend texting me stuff! To defriend you off Facebook and leave you alone. I'd prefer you do not contact me. I do not want to bother with that drama.
Guy: Is it her or someone else? (The most this guy ever committed to statement about a girlfriend)
Me: I sent our convos and the number this person called me on...
Him: I have to explain to you one day... Me: What is there to explain? Either you have a girlfriend or you don't!!!!

Score update: Disbeliever 2
"Guys" 1

<3 Disbeliever Disbelieving 24/7

Thursday, July 5, 2012

Beach boy

So I met this guy probably almost a month ago! He wanted to hang out. He was going to come to the beach to hang out, but never quite made it..
I erased his number immediately. I should stop doing that because then I get like ahhhh who and the f is this? It becomes the ultimate mystery every time.

Here is the convo:

Guy: Hey wassup
(As if it is normal! I haven't heard from this guy for roughly a month!)
Me: hello?
Guy: The last time we talked we left it on a bad note. I just want to see how it is going and how are things with you
Me: Yes we did! I guess the other girl you found at the beach didn't work out for you? My friend saw you by the bathrooms with her. (He was supposed to be on the way to meet with me!)
Guy: I have bad reception with my phone. But excuse me? I'm confused.
I never stepped foot on the beach that day. (Maybe because he was on the boardwalk.) I parked my car and waited for you to respond back. You seemed to catch an attitude with me. That is when I sent you that text and decided to leave. That wasn't me your friend saw and that's no lie.
Me: Ok (Let me have the last word! Please! Pretty please! Pathetic.)

Dead ringer he is lying when he says that's no lie. If you were telling the truth you wouldn't feel the need to say that you are not lying!

Guys who have the last word-2
I have the last word-1

<3 Disbeliever Disbelieving 24/7

The texting continues!

Guy: I guess you're still mad.

Me: Why would I be mad over that? I'm happy you saved me a lot of time because I saw who you are as a person right away.

Guy: I almost never get drunk but ok. Are you saying we will never hang out?

Me: Yes that is what I'm saying

Guy: That sucks

Me: I didn't like anything you said to me! You ignored me... And you were completely shitfaced! You have to be expecting this! Come on! lol

Guy: Ok your right. So every time someone acts inappropriate u take them out of your lives. Pretty soon u will be lonely because everyone acts inappropriate. One day u will act inappropriate n I would never shut u out of my life but I would forgive. (How holy of him!)

Me: Wow valid point. I guess have a counselor here now on my hands! It is easy to remove you from my life because we only hung out twice. The last time does not count because you were not mentally present. You do not see this as a red flag? Why did you drink so much?

Him: I usually don't go out to bars to drink. So I'm not used to it. Plus I got over happy because you n my friends people I like being around where all in the same place for once. I learned my lesson next time it will be different I've even considered not drinking.

Me: Yes you should do that not consider it. Especially if you can't handle your drinks and run around like a crazy nut.

Him: Thanks

Me: Your welcome

Him: What are you doing?

Me: Getting ready to watch fireworks

Him: Have fun

This happened today
Him: Want to chill later? (This was at 9:52pm! So how much is later!)

Me: Yes what time is good for you 12am come on now! Get real!

Him: Goodbye

Me: More like good riddance! Finally

Him: LOL!

Damit I will leave it at that! I so want and crave the last word though. It is annoying because I think we both are craving the last word! I want it more! I should send. :) Does that count as a last word? I will count it! I need the LAST WORD! I crave it!

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Monday, July 2, 2012

Shit or get off the pot

Over the years, I've had several friends find themselves with crushes on me.  It's bound to happen--you get to know each other very well, so it happens.  But many times with these guys I've not had any feelings in return, and it makes the friendship quite awkward.

Alas, such is the case with one friend now.  We've been friends for many years, so I know him about as well as I ever will.  I like our friendship, but have zero interest in anything beyond that.  He, however, has become progressively more attached, at times clingy and smothering to the point that makes me very uncomfortable.  Most of the time I avoid it and ignore it, afraid of saying something that will hurt his feelings or our friendship.  But the smothering is really rather irritating.

What to do?  I realize it's a difficult situation for him, too, as there may not be an easy way out of the situation.  But what is he expecting to happen?  I have been the person in the past who crushes from afar, and will say that it goes nowhere and is a slow form of torture.  Shit or get off the pot, please.  Either go for it and ask me out, or get over it.  Yes, if he went for it I would turn him down, but from his perspective, how is sitting on the fence fun?  Wouldn't you rather know where things stand, and if it isn't going to happen, find a way sooner rather than later to get over it and move on?  There's a lot of life ahead of us all, and I don't think it's fun to waste it pining away for someone who isn't going to return anything.  We all deserve more than that.  I know this from experience.

Trying to stay positive,
Skeptic

(P.S. Please do not speculate about who this is.  I highly doubt any of the readers of this blog would know him.)

Sunday, July 1, 2012

I was still recovering but I but please but...

I would almost rather have heard nothing at this point! Let's see how long he continues to contact me... I'll keep you guys posted
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Age! It's just a number

Up until about the age of 23-25ish I used to believe people would become more and more mature... sadly this is not true at all!

Today I received a text: stop texting so and so boyfriend (insert name here) they have been living together in (insert town here) she sees what you write. Get off his Facebook too thank you.

My response: This must be either so and so or so and so's daughter. (I figure it is a kid with such an immature message.) First of all your mom or you needs a better man! He is sending me messages after every race! Nothing happened between us EVER! Please do not bother me with such non sense and get a better man you deserve it. The only person who owes you anything Is your man, but he denies having a girlfriend... I refuse to be attacked in this manner. If these attacks continue my next steps would be to alert the authorities. Thank you.

Haha I find this funny, pathetic, and sad... I'd rather be single for life than ever feel the need to send out text messages to every woman you think your man is sneaking around on you with! I'm so happy I will never have this situation in life! They say never say never, but if I thought for one second my guy was cheating on me I would be out! That is it! You do not have a relationship without trust! Why even bother? What a waste of time! Time is ticking away.....

I joined a running club to run not be bothered with nonsense!

Thank you.

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