Sunday, September 30, 2012
Monday, September 24, 2012
Not the amazingly intelligent and aloof impression I'd choose to portray....
Realizing that your email account was hacked is annoying, since it sends a senseless email out to everyone in your address book--friends, colleagues, etc.
It's embarrassing enough to know that colleagues and mentors may have gotten the offending email from me. But what's probably worse is to realize that an ex-boyfriend now has something from me in his inbox. Ugh.
Trying to stay positive,
Skeptic
It's embarrassing enough to know that colleagues and mentors may have gotten the offending email from me. But what's probably worse is to realize that an ex-boyfriend now has something from me in his inbox. Ugh.
Trying to stay positive,
Skeptic
Saturday, September 22, 2012
General Dating Rules
These are MY general dating rules when it comes to age. I just want to have it written down on paper for the world to see!
Middle Schoolers date Middle schools (or plus one year)
Highschoolers date Highschoolers (plus or minus one year)
College students date College students (plus or minus one year although I think that would be super rare, but if a couple can make it work good for them)
(22-25ish) Should only date each other! That is such a bad age!
(26-30) I would say within five years. Although, I have absolutely no interest in a 23 year old. I would date up to 33. That is it!
(30-35) I would boost it to six years. So with each new age group add a year basically. That would be my formula.
(35-40) 7 years plus or minus
(40-45) 8 years plus or minus
(45-50) 9 years plus or minus
(50-55) 10 years plus or minus
(55-60) 11 years plus or minus
(60-65) 12 years plus or minus (48 and a 60 year old) Hm maybe my theory is getting a little far fetched! I think once you reach senior age then it depends on your activity level (physically/mentally)...
?s/Comments/Criticisms
<3 Disbeliever
Middle Schoolers date Middle schools (or plus one year)
Highschoolers date Highschoolers (plus or minus one year)
College students date College students (plus or minus one year although I think that would be super rare, but if a couple can make it work good for them)
(22-25ish) Should only date each other! That is such a bad age!
(26-30) I would say within five years. Although, I have absolutely no interest in a 23 year old. I would date up to 33. That is it!
(30-35) I would boost it to six years. So with each new age group add a year basically. That would be my formula.
(35-40) 7 years plus or minus
(40-45) 8 years plus or minus
(45-50) 9 years plus or minus
(50-55) 10 years plus or minus
(55-60) 11 years plus or minus
(60-65) 12 years plus or minus (48 and a 60 year old) Hm maybe my theory is getting a little far fetched! I think once you reach senior age then it depends on your activity level (physically/mentally)...
?s/Comments/Criticisms
<3 Disbeliever
Friday, September 21, 2012
Ki$$ Ki$$!
I got the most beautiful jacket for my birthday from a "friend." In return for the jacket he asked for a kiss! Most awkward moment of my life! This is coming from a girl who does not get embarrassed easily! Now our relationship has changed forever! How long before I hear from him again? Does he want the jacket back? I really like the jacket, but I think of the guy now when I wear it..Ugh!
For his birthday, I'll send him a gift card in the mail!
<3 Disbeliever
For his birthday, I'll send him a gift card in the mail!
<3 Disbeliever
Female blue balls? Yup, they exist!
Errrrggggghhhh.....
So remember SanFranMan? Of course you remember. Well, that whole online flirtation is still going on. Yes, I know--STILL. How long, you may ask? Well, I lost track, but I'm guessing it's been 3 or 4 months now. It's a lot of dirty texting and dirty pictures exchanged, and mutual self-pleasure basically. And since I expected that he'd be in town to visit in early October, I thought that all of this would basically be like the world's longest foreplay.
But now it looks like his trip is cancelled.
Well, fuck. Er, I guess a lack thereof. Yeah, all of this has been really fun and meaningless, which is a BIG departure from how I normally function with guys, but I guess that's what made it so refreshing. But when he told me that he was no longer coming (NO pun intended), I was left with the feeling of..... now what? Four months of buildup to....nothing? He said he still wants to take a trip out here to visit, but now there's no timeframe on that.
Allow me to explain. Mama has needs. It's like dangling food in front of a starving person (and considering how long it's been for me, the starving person as an analogy is somewhat appropriate), but the food is forbidden. The food smells so good, and it's a very enjoyable experience to smell it and see it and salivate over it. But there comes a point when the starving person has just got to eat, and smelling that food is making it worse, so maybe it's better to take the food away. Make sense?
Not surprisingly, he doesn't quite feel that way. He likes all this long distance flirtation, and wants to keep it going. I enjoy it, too, but I ultimately want the whole shebang, and wonder if all of this is just making me even more frustrated and further away from what I ultimately want. I also liked the idea of him coming here because he would have other things to do here and people to visit, which would take the pressure off me in case things are too awkward between us (remember, I still have not seen this guy in 10+ years, so it might just be too strange). If I went to visit him, sure, I could sightsee and do other things, but it seems like there would be more pressure on things.
Maybe the answer here is clear, but I'll be honest--I'm getting a little too frustrated to even think straight now. Like, please-hold-me-back-before-I-make-a-mistake-by-calling-an-ex-for-a-bootie-call frustrated. You ladies understand, right? Help.
Trying to stay positive,
Skeptic
So remember SanFranMan? Of course you remember. Well, that whole online flirtation is still going on. Yes, I know--STILL. How long, you may ask? Well, I lost track, but I'm guessing it's been 3 or 4 months now. It's a lot of dirty texting and dirty pictures exchanged, and mutual self-pleasure basically. And since I expected that he'd be in town to visit in early October, I thought that all of this would basically be like the world's longest foreplay.
But now it looks like his trip is cancelled.
Well, fuck. Er, I guess a lack thereof. Yeah, all of this has been really fun and meaningless, which is a BIG departure from how I normally function with guys, but I guess that's what made it so refreshing. But when he told me that he was no longer coming (NO pun intended), I was left with the feeling of..... now what? Four months of buildup to....nothing? He said he still wants to take a trip out here to visit, but now there's no timeframe on that.
Allow me to explain. Mama has needs. It's like dangling food in front of a starving person (and considering how long it's been for me, the starving person as an analogy is somewhat appropriate), but the food is forbidden. The food smells so good, and it's a very enjoyable experience to smell it and see it and salivate over it. But there comes a point when the starving person has just got to eat, and smelling that food is making it worse, so maybe it's better to take the food away. Make sense?
Not surprisingly, he doesn't quite feel that way. He likes all this long distance flirtation, and wants to keep it going. I enjoy it, too, but I ultimately want the whole shebang, and wonder if all of this is just making me even more frustrated and further away from what I ultimately want. I also liked the idea of him coming here because he would have other things to do here and people to visit, which would take the pressure off me in case things are too awkward between us (remember, I still have not seen this guy in 10+ years, so it might just be too strange). If I went to visit him, sure, I could sightsee and do other things, but it seems like there would be more pressure on things.
Maybe the answer here is clear, but I'll be honest--I'm getting a little too frustrated to even think straight now. Like, please-hold-me-back-before-I-make-a-mistake-by-calling-an-ex-for-a-bootie-call frustrated. You ladies understand, right? Help.
Trying to stay positive,
Skeptic
Wednesday, September 19, 2012
Yoga "Tea"
It was ok. Rather spicy. Nothing like I expected. I thought I would have some ground breaking story to talk about, but sadly no.
I can't look at the instuctor. Just two more times of going! I'd don't think I would join. He has a camera over the area where we pratice. I just noticed it today. Isn't that odd? Just why? I wanted to run around in the bathroom and look for more cameras. Instead I drank tea.
I also got another hug! I was the only one to get a hug both the first and third time I went! A guy got a handshake today. The second time I sneaked out on it. Score!
<3 Disbeliever
I can't look at the instuctor. Just two more times of going! I'd don't think I would join. He has a camera over the area where we pratice. I just noticed it today. Isn't that odd? Just why? I wanted to run around in the bathroom and look for more cameras. Instead I drank tea.
I also got another hug! I was the only one to get a hug both the first and third time I went! A guy got a handshake today. The second time I sneaked out on it. Score!
<3 Disbeliever
It was my Day of Birth!
For my birthday! It was the best birthday to date by far! I didn't make any plans. Just whoever showed up was meant to be there and that is it! If you were not there here is the recap and you missed a show!
Friday~ My one friend from back in the day showed up. I did not see her for like six years. She said she was going to come and show up to my party, but I was like "o yeah whatever." Never DOUBT the Dalt! She said she was coming and she showed up! So cool! I was in shock to see her! When she came up to wish me a happy birthday, I said happy birthday back to her! HaHa then I said maybe I want to go to my 10 year highschool reunion. Just maybe. So we drank Sangria at my favorite Spanish restaurant. Very good and sang tunes such as: Who let the dogs out and ToTo Africa., due to to my one friend's outfit we shall call her the African. She looked like she was going on a safari and my other friend looked like the safari tour guide! We had such a blast singing! There was also this drunk ass guy there. My friend pulled the birthday trick and I had to kiss this guy. Yuck I barely kissed back! Nasty gross yuck! Then my friend kissed him! She was like gross too! The Dalt was the winner! She might have even enjoyed the kiss! That is a big might!
So after the party, it's the after party! We went to this place right on the water! I was supposed to meet up with others there, but they were no shows! Anyways, this round of the party was more chill, but beautiful with fireplaces and boats on the water everywhere! I always love this bar! I feel like I'm away without being away! Some people started throwing cups into the fire and had to leave. I did it too, but did not get busted... Amateurs! If a fire is in front of you how do you not throw stuff in it?
While leaving this place the black men gravitated! It wasn't even that dark of a place! They just always find me. I give these guys credit! I love when guys approach me! White guys never ever do!EVER! So this guy was fueling his game fire and mentioned four times the fire was not hot enough. He was practically throwing his face in the fire saying how it is not hot to him because he is a welder! I love meeting new people. Him and his friends were super funny. They wanted to go IHOP after. Way to go with forfilling stereotypes. I made this guy listen to grub on by my boyfriend Trey Songz. I really appreciate guys coming up to me and can not stress enough how more guys need to just take chances! Make plans! And stop flaking! You guys need to Dalt yourself!!
Saturday- I guess I can say I did a long runish. Should have ran through a park instead of a Jewish section of town on the sabbath. I get the looks of the devil is running though town. Plus tooo many people they get in the way! Saturday was the Spanish night for my birthday. They were all looking as me and my friend African Sarfari dance outside. This night I was attracting the white I-don't-know- how- to-dance-to-this-this stuff type. I'm not going to say I'm an expert with Spanish music, but depending on the situation and if I have a good lead I think I can look ok. Me leading the guy.. no.. Don't come to a Spanish dancing place to grind your penis on my leg because Spanish men can really dance boys! It was frustrating that I got stuck with the non dancers. So this one guy kissed me. Gross. I went with it because why not? But he couldn't dance or kiss! Bye bye! What is with these men? Lately they are all really pretty terrible kissers! Get with it guys! No girl wants to feel like a dog dish! I snuck out on the first guy who wanted to buy me a drink.
Well another guy got me in that time. I became annoyed with the second one. I told him I had to go to the bathroom. He gets all 21-year oldish on me saying just tell me if you are not coming back! I just kept walking. Pathetic! Hopefully he figured out I'm not coming back. Maybe he is still waiting there!
So we left to another bar. The highlight of this bar was the five-year-old fish swimming in the tank! I couldn't believe it was still alive. Unless they switched it out, but it really became a lot bigger. Let's racially profile my people here! Why are white guys the biggest messes at bars anytime ALL the time? I hate to say it! I really do, but damn! I have this fat 300 bearded white guy talk to me. He asked how old I was. I made him guess! He guessed 23. I said sure. He said you wish you were 23. The D-Bag! He had enough nerve to ask me to dance. I said sure and kept walking straight out the bar! I can't afford to have my feet stepped on by some 300 plus pound heffer. I have a half marathon to run this weekend thank you very much! Note to blog world: I was as nice as pie to this guy's face! He was slurring his speech. He must have a large drinking budget! I mean he is over 200 something pounds! It must take him at least 10 beers to get drunk!!!
Sunday- Did my wash birthday weekend!
Monday- Most beautiful beach day! I love the beach and everything about it! Of course there is no better way to spend your birthday!
<3 The Disbeliever Disbelieving
Friday~ My one friend from back in the day showed up. I did not see her for like six years. She said she was going to come and show up to my party, but I was like "o yeah whatever." Never DOUBT the Dalt! She said she was coming and she showed up! So cool! I was in shock to see her! When she came up to wish me a happy birthday, I said happy birthday back to her! HaHa then I said maybe I want to go to my 10 year highschool reunion. Just maybe. So we drank Sangria at my favorite Spanish restaurant. Very good and sang tunes such as: Who let the dogs out and ToTo Africa., due to to my one friend's outfit we shall call her the African. She looked like she was going on a safari and my other friend looked like the safari tour guide! We had such a blast singing! There was also this drunk ass guy there. My friend pulled the birthday trick and I had to kiss this guy. Yuck I barely kissed back! Nasty gross yuck! Then my friend kissed him! She was like gross too! The Dalt was the winner! She might have even enjoyed the kiss! That is a big might!
So after the party, it's the after party! We went to this place right on the water! I was supposed to meet up with others there, but they were no shows! Anyways, this round of the party was more chill, but beautiful with fireplaces and boats on the water everywhere! I always love this bar! I feel like I'm away without being away! Some people started throwing cups into the fire and had to leave. I did it too, but did not get busted... Amateurs! If a fire is in front of you how do you not throw stuff in it?
While leaving this place the black men gravitated! It wasn't even that dark of a place! They just always find me. I give these guys credit! I love when guys approach me! White guys never ever do!EVER! So this guy was fueling his game fire and mentioned four times the fire was not hot enough. He was practically throwing his face in the fire saying how it is not hot to him because he is a welder! I love meeting new people. Him and his friends were super funny. They wanted to go IHOP after. Way to go with forfilling stereotypes. I made this guy listen to grub on by my boyfriend Trey Songz. I really appreciate guys coming up to me and can not stress enough how more guys need to just take chances! Make plans! And stop flaking! You guys need to Dalt yourself!!
Saturday- I guess I can say I did a long runish. Should have ran through a park instead of a Jewish section of town on the sabbath. I get the looks of the devil is running though town. Plus tooo many people they get in the way! Saturday was the Spanish night for my birthday. They were all looking as me and my friend African Sarfari dance outside. This night I was attracting the white I-don't-know- how- to-dance-to-this-this stuff type. I'm not going to say I'm an expert with Spanish music, but depending on the situation and if I have a good lead I think I can look ok. Me leading the guy.. no.. Don't come to a Spanish dancing place to grind your penis on my leg because Spanish men can really dance boys! It was frustrating that I got stuck with the non dancers. So this one guy kissed me. Gross. I went with it because why not? But he couldn't dance or kiss! Bye bye! What is with these men? Lately they are all really pretty terrible kissers! Get with it guys! No girl wants to feel like a dog dish! I snuck out on the first guy who wanted to buy me a drink.
Well another guy got me in that time. I became annoyed with the second one. I told him I had to go to the bathroom. He gets all 21-year oldish on me saying just tell me if you are not coming back! I just kept walking. Pathetic! Hopefully he figured out I'm not coming back. Maybe he is still waiting there!
So we left to another bar. The highlight of this bar was the five-year-old fish swimming in the tank! I couldn't believe it was still alive. Unless they switched it out, but it really became a lot bigger. Let's racially profile my people here! Why are white guys the biggest messes at bars anytime ALL the time? I hate to say it! I really do, but damn! I have this fat 300 bearded white guy talk to me. He asked how old I was. I made him guess! He guessed 23. I said sure. He said you wish you were 23. The D-Bag! He had enough nerve to ask me to dance. I said sure and kept walking straight out the bar! I can't afford to have my feet stepped on by some 300 plus pound heffer. I have a half marathon to run this weekend thank you very much! Note to blog world: I was as nice as pie to this guy's face! He was slurring his speech. He must have a large drinking budget! I mean he is over 200 something pounds! It must take him at least 10 beers to get drunk!!!
Sunday- Did my wash birthday weekend!
Monday- Most beautiful beach day! I love the beach and everything about it! Of course there is no better way to spend your birthday!
<3 The Disbeliever Disbelieving
Meeting people non-traditionally
One of my mom's coworkers said he went to yoga with his mom a few times. Guys that have interest in going to these things, but are often afraid to go. Yes, mainly females go to yoga, but think of all the ladies you will meet! Here is a hint men yoga studios are a mecca predominately filled with women. If you are looking to meet someone. Forget about the speed dating. Forget about whatever you are doing and try yoga more often. I know I'll be trying Home Depot more often. A handy man who fixes things! What more can you ask for? The men flock to you at Home Depot. Last time I was there with my father and they will still working their game! I love it! Where else can a single girls meet men in non traditional spots? I think the mall, too! Although a lot of guys shop with their girlfriends. I do not understand why! I prefer to shop 100 percent by myself anytime and all-the-time. Although, the occasional company is not bad. I really don't understand dragging the guys ino all these stores! I only been shopping less than three times with former boyfriends.
I also think bookstores are a great spot, Starbucks, parks, and clubs!
Hmm where was the craziest spot you ever met someone?
I'd say 7-11. Although it is not "crazy" I did meet a guy there and we wound up dating for almost four years!
<3 The Disbeliever Disbelieving 24/7/365/ on leap years 366!
I also think bookstores are a great spot, Starbucks, parks, and clubs!
Hmm where was the craziest spot you ever met someone?
I'd say 7-11. Although it is not "crazy" I did meet a guy there and we wound up dating for almost four years!
<3 The Disbeliever Disbelieving 24/7/365/ on leap years 366!
Tuesday, September 18, 2012
Yogic C~R~U~S~H
I become involved in yoga first by attending classes at my gym. Gyms mainly have Vinyasa yoga. This type of yoga is a series of flow poses with basic breathing. Next, I moved onto Bikram yoga which is hot yoga performed in 110 degrees. Now, I truly feel involved with Kundalini yoga. It is super strange. To be honest if it was my first class that I took over two years ago I would have gone running out of the room thinking no way! You really have to see it to believe it. Hard to describe.
I liked the instructor from the first phone call. It was super weird. I just felt the liking tension immediately. From our phone conversation I decided he was a Brazillian hottie. I drove down to the yoga studio and start filling out the paperwork for the class. What do you hope to accomplish in the near future? I put find a man! He read that out loud because he was reading over my shoulder. I could barely even think with him standing there! He only read that one out loud! I also brought the wrong paperwork. I didn't sign up for the class, or have the right sheet of papers with me. HaHa luckily he let me take the class anyways. He can probably tell I really needed this yoga class to destress from life! So our first class began. I couldn't help it, but I really like this guy for whatever reason. After seeing him in person I thought he was Indian now. Straight from the motherland of yoga. He is the most confusing person to pinpoint nationality on. After speaking a while I switched my guess back to Brazilian. He has that spanish accent when he speaks. Although when he sings, he sounds like he can be from Texas with a southern drawl. I went on his yoga page and he is Brazilian! I left my first class beaming from liking this guy so much. I don't know why I do. I guess I do find him attractively different. I really think it is more about his aura. I couldn't even stay though because I was acting a damn beaming fool! He hugged me too on the way out! O geez! I was overwhelmed by this guy's energy.
So I went to my second class wearing a black t-shirt. It was at this point I realized mostly everyone wears white. It is to absorb more postive energy according to my web search. MUST wear white next time! The real serious people wear all white special cotton clothes. I still felt the same way about him. Almost like he radiates a heat off his body and his energy is amazing. I just read his page. I figured out his aura is attractive and that makes him super attractive. At least I figured out why I'm so attracted to him now. So this class I got a little bit more used to him, but I still bounced out on the yoga tea. I had plans after the past class, so I had to leave.
My next class I really want to stay for the tea. I just hope more then me stays. I will definately blog about it to let you know how it goes. I rarely get embaressed. I would be so embarrassed if he were to find this entry. I feel like he is all knowing and probably already knows I wrote this.
Here is a excerpt from his page: "but there's no more searching, there's nothing else to search, instead there's a surrendering process to what is, to the infinite aspect of my existence which is the real Self. A journey of simply be and serve humanity as an instrument of universal harmony. For serving is the highest vibration a human being can reach, the highest yoga, the finest expression of universal love."
Here he is:
I liked the instructor from the first phone call. It was super weird. I just felt the liking tension immediately. From our phone conversation I decided he was a Brazillian hottie. I drove down to the yoga studio and start filling out the paperwork for the class. What do you hope to accomplish in the near future? I put find a man! He read that out loud because he was reading over my shoulder. I could barely even think with him standing there! He only read that one out loud! I also brought the wrong paperwork. I didn't sign up for the class, or have the right sheet of papers with me. HaHa luckily he let me take the class anyways. He can probably tell I really needed this yoga class to destress from life! So our first class began. I couldn't help it, but I really like this guy for whatever reason. After seeing him in person I thought he was Indian now. Straight from the motherland of yoga. He is the most confusing person to pinpoint nationality on. After speaking a while I switched my guess back to Brazilian. He has that spanish accent when he speaks. Although when he sings, he sounds like he can be from Texas with a southern drawl. I went on his yoga page and he is Brazilian! I left my first class beaming from liking this guy so much. I don't know why I do. I guess I do find him attractively different. I really think it is more about his aura. I couldn't even stay though because I was acting a damn beaming fool! He hugged me too on the way out! O geez! I was overwhelmed by this guy's energy.
So I went to my second class wearing a black t-shirt. It was at this point I realized mostly everyone wears white. It is to absorb more postive energy according to my web search. MUST wear white next time! The real serious people wear all white special cotton clothes. I still felt the same way about him. Almost like he radiates a heat off his body and his energy is amazing. I just read his page. I figured out his aura is attractive and that makes him super attractive. At least I figured out why I'm so attracted to him now. So this class I got a little bit more used to him, but I still bounced out on the yoga tea. I had plans after the past class, so I had to leave.
My next class I really want to stay for the tea. I just hope more then me stays. I will definately blog about it to let you know how it goes. I rarely get embaressed. I would be so embarrassed if he were to find this entry. I feel like he is all knowing and probably already knows I wrote this.
Here is a excerpt from his page: "but there's no more searching, there's nothing else to search, instead there's a surrendering process to what is, to the infinite aspect of my existence which is the real Self. A journey of simply be and serve humanity as an instrument of universal harmony. For serving is the highest vibration a human being can reach, the highest yoga, the finest expression of universal love."
Here he is:
Make yourself so happy, that by looking at you,
other people become happy." ~Yogi Bhajan
When there's Dharma, there's no karma!!!!
<3 The Disbeliever Disbelieving 24/7/365/ on leap years 366!
<3 The Disbeliever Disbelieving 24/7/365/ on leap years 366!
Tuesday, September 11, 2012
Eviction
Dreams are funny, in that sometimes they seem to come out of nowhere. We dream about strange things that we haven't thought about in a very long time. Are they things that are deep within our subconscious? Or just a combination of lots of neurons firing in our brain that create a combination that might be strange, or that might be strangely familiar, both of which are just a coincidence? Opinions vary on how dreams work, but whatever the case, I always find them fascinating.
On a personal note, whenever I dream about my ex, it leaves me with strange mixed feelings all day long that I'm not sure how to process. I can try to cast it aside like it's just neurons firing in a strange way in my brain at night, but the memory of it is still unnerving. Get out of my brain, ex.
Trying to stay positive,
Skeptic
They start young these days
Today I picked up a dear friend's kids from school. The kids are Girl (7) and Boy (9). While we were driving, we had the following conversation that I thought I'd share.
Girl: [Skeptic], I have something to tell you.
Me: Yes?
Girl: There's a boy at school who wants to date me.
Me: Oh, really?
Girl: Yeah, but he's a bad boy.
Me: What makes him a bad boy?
Girl: Well, he doesn't listen in math, and he gets in trouble a lot. And he ran out into the street and got hit in the arm, but he didn't break it.
Boy: Oh yeah, he did. He wasn't out from school though.
Girl: It got hurt a lot, but wasn't broken.
Me: Okay okay, let's get back to the important part. Do you want to date him?
Girl: Yeah, sure. Well, except that I don't like the way he talks to me.
Me: What does he say?
Girl: He says things like, "hey, baby...." I don't like it.
Me: Good girl, they have to treat you well.
Girl: I don't know what to do.
Me: Well, did you tell him to stop? What if he starts being nice to you? Would you date him then?
Girl: He won't stop. And I can't tell him I won't date him because he's my friend.
Me: Ah. A lot of women have that problem.
Me: [Boy], pay attention. You have to treat ladies nicely.
Boy: Okay.
Trying to stay positive,
SkepticThursday, September 6, 2012
Attention: Can we have a proctologist aisle 101
Ugh saw my hot "X" again. This was the one from around Januaryish that I saw and he saw me and started doing the craziest workout. Tonight he was swimming at the gym pool while I was dog walking. I looked in! His body got better from when we dated. It wasn't bad at all then, but now his body is wow! If he doesn't become a proctologist he should definitely become a trainer! H-O-T!
<3 The Disbeliever Disbelieving 24/7/365/ on leap years 366!
<3 The Disbeliever Disbelieving 24/7/365/ on leap years 366!
Yay science!
I am fascinated by the way the mind works, and was flipping through the most recent copy of Scientific American Mind recently when I found myself reading a great article about online dating. It's everything you would instinctually think is true about the pros and cons of online dating, just with scientific evidence to back it up. Fascinating read.
Unfortunately, it looks like the complete article is not available online. So all I can say is, get yourself to the nearest drugstore or wherever you can find magazines near you, and find a copy of the magazine. I think you'll like it.
Here's the very short preview that's available online (the actual article, as a feature article in the issue, is many pages long).
Essentially, the article describes that although dating/mating has evolved much over time, the shift to online dating, while it accounts for the starts of almost as many relationships as a connection with a friend, is not completely constructive. This is because:
- People may not be good judges of the qualities in an online profile which would appeal to them in person,
- Comparing multiple prospects side-by-side is not necessarily an effective way to evaluate compatibility, and
- Having many options may not allow for good decisions for one's romantic future
The article explains the science behind these points, as well as some other notions about online dating. One I find interesting is the idea of seeing online dating as "relationshopping," by going into it with a list of requirements, shopping for a date by income and hair color rather than factors that matter more in compatibility such as rapport and sense of humor. Somehow very superficial factors get put on a pedestal, as if everyone in the world is ultimately attracted to the same things. "Singles at a party would not all mob one attractive person, which is effectively what happens online."
Anyway, I ramble a bit. But it really is a great read--check it out.
Trying to stay positive,
Skeptic
Monday, September 3, 2012
Guys of Summer~ Also known as Man Babies!
I had a great discussion last night about the man baby...
Friend's definition of her man baby: (I really hope she becomes a featured writer for us by the way! Hint!) Her former guy was 35 and he still smoked an illegal herbal substance every day along with drinking. She was in shock that he picked these activities over their relationship. Did I have the same situation? Sadly yes. Now some can say I'm attracting these types of man babies. However, time and time again I hear about some form of a man baby from a different female. A guy playing games. Not wanting anything more than getting "it" in. Where did this come from? Why did this happen? Why are a lot of guys so afraid of a relationships? They are not the end of the world!
Now I know I will have this one particular guy leave a comment saying because we write the good guys off! Not true! Not true at all! I know what I'm looking for in a guy! It is definitely not a man baby!
Who do you think is our biggest man baby of this summer?
Costa Rican~ Trying to mack it to my friend and I at the same time. I have another guy just like this as well. At first he seemed more interested in my friend. Now that she didn't take the bait they move onto to you. No guys that really doesn't make a girl feel special. It is not exactly what I'm looking for! If you showed interest in my friend first then try to make a switch to the Disbeliever band wagon I just think to myself: WTF! We are comparing notes!
Heny~ (Missing the "R") The next big thing in the up and coming rapping scene! We posted his pictures before.
Or maybe the possible worst guy of summer was the one who got so drunk on our date I snuck out the kitchen on him. He is from roughly two months ago.
Catch up on our boys of summer! Who do you think was our worst male?
<3 The Disbeliever Disbelieving 24/7/365/ on leap years 366!
Friend's definition of her man baby: (I really hope she becomes a featured writer for us by the way! Hint!) Her former guy was 35 and he still smoked an illegal herbal substance every day along with drinking. She was in shock that he picked these activities over their relationship. Did I have the same situation? Sadly yes. Now some can say I'm attracting these types of man babies. However, time and time again I hear about some form of a man baby from a different female. A guy playing games. Not wanting anything more than getting "it" in. Where did this come from? Why did this happen? Why are a lot of guys so afraid of a relationships? They are not the end of the world!
Now I know I will have this one particular guy leave a comment saying because we write the good guys off! Not true! Not true at all! I know what I'm looking for in a guy! It is definitely not a man baby!
Who do you think is our biggest man baby of this summer?
Costa Rican~ Trying to mack it to my friend and I at the same time. I have another guy just like this as well. At first he seemed more interested in my friend. Now that she didn't take the bait they move onto to you. No guys that really doesn't make a girl feel special. It is not exactly what I'm looking for! If you showed interest in my friend first then try to make a switch to the Disbeliever band wagon I just think to myself: WTF! We are comparing notes!
Heny~ (Missing the "R") The next big thing in the up and coming rapping scene! We posted his pictures before.
Or maybe the possible worst guy of summer was the one who got so drunk on our date I snuck out the kitchen on him. He is from roughly two months ago.
Catch up on our boys of summer! Who do you think was our worst male?
<3 The Disbeliever Disbelieving 24/7/365/ on leap years 366!
Sunday, September 2, 2012
Just one little thing
Small pet peeve: people who "celebrate" their anniversaries on Facebook.
Your anniversary is a private celebration. By all means, celebrate with your significant other. Paint the town red together, and cap off the night with a marathon session of sex, for all I care. But honestly, you announcing to all the world via Facebook that you are sooooo happy to have been married to your best friend for a whole year to this very day is of no interest to me at all.
That is all.
Trying to stay positive,
Skeptic
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