The quick rundown on the first impressions:
On one hand,
- Great banter--things were a little slow to start (as they usually are when you meet a stranger), but once I made a crude bathroom joke, I think he loosened up a little bit and I got to see more of his fun personality. He said he was surprised and didn't expect something like that to come from me. Do I come across as stiff or prude or something? Anyway, after that the conversation flowed very well, and naturally.
- Never dated anyone of his heritage before, so that's a first for me. Can't say I've ever been attracted to anyone of his heritage before, but this guy is cute, so you never know! Don't rule things out!
- It was very nice kissing him. A little sloppy, but not a dealbreaker. We can work on that. :)
- We split the check. I know that sounds bad, and I'm generally fairly progressive in a long-term dating relationship about balancing that out (it's not the guy's burden to always pay), but I'll admit that I'm slightly old-fashioned when it comes to a first date. I nearly always pull out my wallet when the check comes, but guys usually tell me to put it away. I was a little surprised that he didn't.
- He's a bit small for a guy--my same height, and skinnier than me (grr....). Not a huge deal, although I'll admit not the type I'm usually attracted to. I'll try to be open-minded here.
- He disappeared to the bathroom 4 times. Granted, our date lasted a long time--over 5 hours--so bathroom breaks are completely reasonable. But I don't think he was drinking any more than I was and I didn't have to go once. I'm a little bit of a camel in that respect, so it wouldn't surprise me if he had to go once or twice, but 4 times seems a bit much. Was he doing something else in there? Texting his friends? Looking for an escape route out the window? Pleasuring himself? I'm curious about this.
Trying to stay positive,
Skeptic
Awesome! It's great you're branching out in terms of people's backgrounds. People have different opinions on who should pay on the first date - I think a girl should offer and if the offer is accepted, should be a good sport. Which it sounds like you were.
ReplyDeleteBathroom - depending on the day, I find myself taking trips to the ladies' room way more than normal. Maybe he was having that kind of day. I sincerely hope he wasn't looking for an escape route or ahem, pleasuring himself.
I think I'd be a bit concerned if he was shooting drugs in there, but most other reasons I'd be fine with. I'm just really curious. It may just be nerves--the guy hesitated to admit to me that he sometimes eats cereal for dinner. Evidently girls have been put off by that in the past, so he seemed a little embarrassed. I laughed--if that's a big thing to be embarrassed about, I think we're good.
DeleteAny update? :)
DeleteNot yet--he's been out of town for work and our schedules haven't lined up yet, but we have penciled in plans for later on this month. I'll let you know! :)
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